below. Read older ones dating to 2000 at the
link at the bottom of this page. Add yours! (I
count 1105 on these pages dating to 2000.)
The New York
Times quoted from your e-mail below for an article on menstrual
suppression in the 14 October 2003 edition, Science
Times section (online
"I strongly dislike the
thought of putting synthetic/ extra hormones into my
body and disrupting the natural cycle. It is also
disturbing to know that taking such pills could cause an
increased risk of cervical cancer (and yet I read that
taking them could provide a protective effect against
ovarian cancer that could last for years, which would be
Hello, I came across the MUM website while browsing Google
for "I don't want to get my period anymore." The subject
matter in general and a lot of the responses struck a
chord with me. I typed out my own rather long and candid
opinion in response to the question, "Would you stop
menstruating indefinitely?" and would be happy to have it
added to the website. Thanks. Continued
"Because my menstruation made me so sick and was so
irregular, I am glad to be without it. I don't
equate the bleeding or being able to give birth with
'womanhood' or being 'female.' "
Truly, your site is fascinating! I have wondered how
menstruation was handled throughout the ages.
I am 35.
When I decided I wouldn't have children, I wanted to stop
the menstruation - after all, what was the point if I
wasn't going to actually use it? Besides, I was
never regular and I seriously could have used one of those
"sanitary aprons" as I bled heavily for 2-3 days each
time. My periods were so irregular, they were as
close as 2 weeks or as far apart as 3 months.
When I was 32, I didn't stop bleeding for 3 months.
By the time I saw the doctor, I was severely anemic and
passing out. I saw her on a Tuesday, and Thursday I
had surgery - the removal of the uterus. She told me
afterwards that my symptoms, while not exactly common,
happened with autoimmune disease. I have thus far
been diagnosed with four.
Because my menstruation made me so sick and was so
irregular, I am glad to be without it. I don't
equate the bleeding or being able to give birth with
"womanhood" or being "female." I see that it's split
in half, those who associate it with, and those who don't
- and it's likely generational. I'm happy for those
who were born with working systems and can embrace
it. But because I wasn't and couldn't doesn't make
me any less a woman, nor does it make those born in the
wrong body who have to transition any less feminine.
What truly makes a woman a woman is specifically in her
brain, not between her legs (or what might come out from
"When I was twelve years old, my step mother did brujería [Spanish for
witchcraft] on me. She took my underwear to a black magic witch doctor, who
then buried it in a cemetery."
This comment is too long for the page. Read all of
it here. (October 2015)
"I, and many other women it seems, link my period with
I found your site today and have greatly appreciated it.
I've been thinking
about how I wish I knew more about how every day people
handled every day
things hundreds of years ago, and I wonder to what degree
any of those
things were deemed important enough to record. So, with
that, I would like
to say my piece. The question involves a lot of factors
that I've been
spending a lot of time thinking about lately.
I would not stop my period if I could. I already chose not
I, and many other women it seems, link my period with my
womanhood. So the
question almost sounds like, would I give up my womanhood?
(Continued because of length as July
"I had a uterine ablation. It was done in my gyn's
I was a gal who had heavy bleeding since the start of
menses when I was 10,
the Novasure system. It was fast, and I had one period
afterwards, and been
period free since. What is great is that you don't lose
any of your organs."
yes TEN years old. I had horrible cramps, missed school,
you name it. I
prayed that one day all of this would stop. I grew up, had
my kids, and
felt I no longer needed my period. Well, my wish came
Back in 2007 I had a uterine ablation. It was done in my
gyn's office using
the Novasure system. It was fast, and I had one period
afterwards, and been
period free since. What is great is that you don't lose
any of your organs.
You still have a monthly cycle, PMS is greatly reduced or
most women either have light bleeding (1-2 days) or none
at all. All the
women I know who have had this are no longer menstruating.
Of course, you have to be sure you are finished having
children, as the
procedure makes it nearly impossible for a pregnancy to
happen, and if one
does, it is very dangerous. There is more information at
Insurance usually covers it, as heavy bleeding during
menses is considered
a medical condition.
Thank you and I love your website, I frequent it often!
"It would be quite entertaining to watch a man try
to give birth through the head of [his] penis"
I would stop the bleeding from my vagina. And, If I
were God, I would place that curse upon men…along with
cramps, worries about missed periods, and
childbirth. It would be quite entertaining to watch
a man try to give birth through the head of their penis,
and paybacks a bitch! 😉 I live in California and
today is my 50th birthday…not that husband or children
give a damn. Haven’t even got one “Happy Birthday”,
or a thanks for giving birth to us.
"Instead of getting rid of it, we should learn
how to use it for our well being and embrace it as a part of ourselves."
I wouldn’t stop my menstruation. I respect my body and my cycle. I have PMDD which
affects my mood but I think it’s very important.
Spiritually, I think women are lucky to have the cycle of life and death in their
bodies. I always write down my dates so that I know, roughly, when is ovulation and
when I might have my periods. I also try to spend time under the moon to keep my
cycle timed with the moon cycle. I’m scared of menopause because I’m so used to this
cycle of death and rebirth. I don’t see periods as a separate thing it’s part of my
body’s process as a woman of childbearing age. It’s not separate from ovulation or
the good sides of having a cycle. I also think it would be terribly unhealthy for
both body and soul to stop menstruating. It’s part of the healing process of our
soul and also body. The only problem is that we live now in a world that wants to
ignore that we are part of nature. Just like our planet needs Autumn, we need our
periods. It’s part of being a woman. Instead of getting rid of it, we should learn
how to use it for our well being and embrace it as a part of ourselves.
Switzerland, 30 years old
“Free at Last. Thank God almighty I’m Free at Last.”
When I was 32 I had one ovary and tube removed due to
noncancerous tumors. the Doctors said that I will have
an erratic cycle with a period every other month and I
would probably go through menopause in my early 40s. I
was pleased at that prospect. But as luck would have
it, my periods were every month and heavy. I fought
pain and discomfort (no medication would help) most of
my life until I turned 54. My periods stopped suddenly
never to return. Now when asked about it, I say, “Free
at Last. Thank God almighty I’m Free at Last.”
Why didn't the Great Creator tweak that whole
process a bit so that nothing is lost?
I was born in 1945.
In 1984 I had my uterus removed because I was
bleeding all the time, just a bit. I was a school
teacher with one daughter. In the spring of 84, after
two d&c's and a refusal to use birth control pills
to stop the bleeding, my doctor, a wonderful Swedish
man practicing in Florida (whose office was later
bombed because he gave abortions) suggested I have the
uterus removed. He theorized and I think he is right,
that an IUD I had back in the 70ís for a year caused
some upset to my female system. The IUD was painful
and never comfortable. After it was removed, I started
having sporadic bleeding. I still have healthy
I always considered menstruation a pain in the neck
and felt it really unfair that men and boys had no
I'm a writer and I am writing about the differences
in how boys and girls were treated in my teenage years
In no way did I or do I consider that miserable
bleeding every month a badge of anything except
frustration, pain and something to be rid of. In fact,
I think the process is flawed and do not quite
understand why all that nutrient-rich blood has to
flow out. Why didn't the Great Creator tweak that
whole process a bit so that nothing is lost?
I can't imagine using all that paraphernalia and
being in some small way slightly incapacitated for
part of each month. And, don't even get me started on
all the ways that girls can be made fun because of
bleeding every month.
Down with Menstruation!
"I have imagined slicing open my abdomen with a
knife and using my hands to yank out my 'female
organs' because it would be less painful."
I came across this site via a link and decided to take
a quick look. As
I'm eating right now, I'll probably not spend too long
on this site at
the moment, but when I saw this, I HAD to reply.
Would I stop menstruating if I could? Yes, and I have.
I have been
plagued with menstrual issues all my life, from an
early start to severe
cramps that have left me motionless on the floor at
work. I have
imagined slicing open my abdomen with a knife and
using my hands to yank
out my "female organs" because it would be less
painful. Since my
surgery at age 17 (to remove a grapefruit-size cyst
along with the ovary
it was attached to), I have never been regular and
I've been plagued
with clots, some quarter-size, some larger, but most
smaller. My cramps
were so severe I was, at one point, put on a special
narcotic just to
kill the pain. I seriously considered taking steps to
Speaking with my doctor led me to make the very simple
choice to take
birth-control hormones constantly (no STOP hormones)
and I haven't had a
period for about 18 months now. It's glorious! No more
clots falling out while I crumple over in pain. No
more worrying about
pads (due to a physical restriction I don't wear
tampons). No more
bloody sheets. Nothing! It's amazing, wonderful, and
And people say being a woman is glorious. Hmph. I'm
glad I don't have
"Yes, Yes, Yes! I never wanted it in the first
I'm in my mid-30's and would definitely stop having a
period if I could. To
that end, I'm seriously thinking of the depo-provera
injections. I started
my period at 11 years old and I can still remember the
shame and fear of it
every month. It took years for it to normalize into
something I could
reasonably understand, prepare for, and predict. I
hated it and still do.
It gets more painful every year and I keep having
painful ovarian cysts
develop during some cycles, but not big enough for
enough to hurt like hell when they burst. When I was
younger, I couldn't
understand why God would curse me with such an
embarrassing and painful
event every month just to have kids. Now that I'm
older, I still don't
understand, but I really don't want kids and I see my
period as a useless,
exhausting, and fruitless monthly episode. I really,
really can't wait for
menopause. I know menopause symptoms aren't pretty,
but afterward I can
finally relax and not worry about this particular
This e-mail is too long for the page. Read it
here. (February 2014)
I love not having a period.
Probably yes. I did not like the PMS, unexpected
bleeding, cramping, etc. but mine were never the
nightmare some women have described. Lucky me I am
through menopause and have not had a period in three
years! I love not having a period. I do miss ovulation
or as my friend called it "mating week". My
husband was suddenly extra appealing that one week a
month. He misses that week too. I do feel as
though my 50's are my favorite time of life, the kids
are grown, I love my husband, my life, my friends, and
my hobbies. I worry far less about what others might
think of me. I am back in college studying
fashion design and having the time of my life.
A girl in Germany conveys her teacher's
To the point about stopping menstruation: We had one
memorable biology lesson where one of the boys (after
being asked) told the teacher (the same one mentioned
[below in brackets], not actually a feminist but
rather tough) that there were three weeks of
menstruation and one week pause in a month. To that
she said if that were the case she would shoot
[This student also writes, "I heard tales (read
curses) of people who grew up with cloth belts. For
example, my German teacher [see above] told us there
were five women at home and the bucket
where the soiled pads soaked was never empty [a slap
in the face to synchronous
periods]." Kotex indirectly showed this in a powerful
November 1921 ad. To show this old way in the museum in my house I strung
up a clothes line with bird's eye
cloth hanging from it; this cloth that women used to
diaper babies also diapered
themselves during menstruation.]
[The writer also wrote, "I've got a contribution for
the Word for Menstruatioin page: (As I'm German so are
the words.) My father always calls it "Ölwechsel"
(changing of oil) and tampons and such "Putzwolle"
(cleaning wool/fleece). Between my mom and me it's
usually the famous 'visitor'; even though ours has no
name it is not less unwelcome.
"Also I think the can-can girls
(just been flitting over the website) were the first
to be allowed to wear closed
underwear for decency's sake."]
It make sense of my life,
why would I want to stop it?
I would not stop if I had the choice! I would
go on forever. I can't imagine what my life will
be like when I have gone through the menopause,
how will I know where am. Menstruation is
not just about one week a month, it is a cycle, every
day changes, moves on around the wheel, dreams reflect
that, events and people are seen through these
slightly different coloured lenses every day. It
make sense of my life, why would I want to stop
it? The bleeding has bought me to bed sometimes,
and is 'inconvenient' in terms of normal everyday
society, but I don't look upon this as bad, its a
gift. Everything is made more amazing by my
bleeding cycle, its bought to life. I don't want
it to stop. I have suffered PMDD, now I am
nearly 50 and my cycles becoming erratic this seems to
have eased, but is still part of the richness,
although terrible. I am in the UK.
I want it to be gone for good.
Yes. I'm a 28-year old woman and would love to
stop. I've had erratic periods since I started
in my mid-teens and have developed severe headaches
and panic attacks before having mine along with my
periods getting gradually more painful and
heavy. I also don't intend on having children
either and thus, making this useless.
While I have been put on the pill to help with some of
these issues and it has been helping, I want it to be
gone for good.
This e-mail about menstrual customs in India
affecting the writer's desire to stop is too long
for this page. Read it here.
This e-mail from Australia is too long for this
page; read it here.
I already did. ... What I tell to other women.
If periods make you feel sick don't give up till you
find a doctor that understands and will help you.
I already did. I am 32 years old and it has been 10
years since my last
period. I take depoprovera shots every 3 months and
this was the best
decision I have ever made in my life. And as far as i
am concerned I am
going like that till real menopause.
I got my first period when I was 12. I was never
regular, had periods
lasting 10 days, heavy bleeding and cramps. With the
years things started
to get worse. I started having cramps the whole month,
be swolen migraines
throwing up the whole day almost everyday, tumor on my
face during periods
and colds. The last year I had period I spent the
whole year with a cold
that would go away full of fluids on my lungs. It was
terrible. After going
to lots of doctors that said everything was normal and
that women should
have periods and passed me only normal birth control
pills. I also
discovered I have alergy to estrogen. I had to take
Then I discovered the injection by one female doctor
and started taking it.
The first two months I had little spots. But once it
stopped it stopped for
good and with it so it stopped the colds, the
migraines, I lost 27 kilos in
6 months, I can wear any color of clothes any day, go
anywhere I want, have
sex at any day i want, do anything i want. I never
felt so female in my
life and it was the first time since childhood I knew
what real quality of
I thank God I didn't have the bad things other
women that took this
injection did. For me was just good things. I will
never have a period
again even it I needed it to keep me alive. It's not
worth living the way I
was living when i had periods. Now I am free. Now I
know health and quality
of life. Now I am a real woman. And for having kids.
There are so many
things in life. I don't need to have children to be a
woman. And if someday
I want one I can always adopt.
What I tell to other women. If periods make you feel
sick don't give up
till you find a doctor that understands and will help
you. You don't have
to live like that, everybody has the right to health,
freedom and quality
of life. Everybody has the right to happiness. I found
mine, and so can
you. I don't regret my decision 10 years ago one bit.
"I have never been labeled 'nervous' or
'depressed' by a female clinician of any sort in the
Spanish health system."
I live in Spain, though I grew up in the US. Would I
stop menstruating if I could? Most definitely. I
started very young, at just 11. Well it was "very
young" then, though I've heard since those days (1973)
that girls are starting as young as 9. In that place
at that time, it was unusual. The pain was horrible. I
literally ran a low-grade fever for the first couple
of days, shivered uncontrollably and had extremely
heavy periods that lasted 10 days. My mother, a mother
of 10 who had married at 15 in 1944, told me it was
"all part of life" and was less than sympathetic. My
periods were irregular, and not until I went to
college and was able to go to the student health
centre on my own, did I find out that low-dose
contraceptives would help with the pain and regulate
my cycle. Then I moved to Spain. That was 30 years
ago, and more than one doctor told me that the pain
was "all in my mind" and "there is nothing there to
hurt" and "if you have a baby all of
that will go away." I now understand they
thought I was bored and idle and needed a child to
take my mind off myself. Any symptom they couldn't
define quickly was put down to "nerves" or
"depression." These doctors were of course male. Of
late years more and more medical professionals are
women, and they know what I'm talking about. I have
never been labeled "nervous" or "depressed" by a
female clinician of any sort in the Spanish health
system. I am now 50 and haven't had a period for about
6 months, and I am delighted. No more mess, pain,
smell or stains on clothing in spite of wearing the
heaviest protection available. No more feeling
self-conscious. No more mouthfuls of bubbly saliva
that make me vomit if I don't spit them out quickly.
I'll take the occasional insomnia and hot flashes, any
day of the week. Charlie horses? Bring them on. I'll
deal with them. But I am not the sort of woman whose
identity is defined by her reproductive capacity.
You can't patch a hole with anger.
Moscow, Russia: Yes and No
I would gladly stop this monthly hell if it would be
possible and safe enough.
Sadly now there are only little few options left for
people not wanting it, and all of them have some
counter-indications and quite intrusive themselves.
First you have to attend a gynecologist, which is not
quite possible when you actually not even feel female
enough. And explaining this to Russian doctors... And
explaining why you don't want it... Hard and
psychologically uncomfortable. (Continued because of length.)
30, Moscow, Russia
Yes. And "I would like to post a response to the
person [right below] who thinks everyone should know
when their period is due, and that anyone who doesn't
is basically stupid":
"The other thing I find curious or even amusing, is
that so many women have 'no idea when they will begin
their period.''Do I HATE it...again, not really. I
mean...it is part of being who I am. There are so many
different options out there for handling "problem"
periods...the problem is women don't find it
"important" enough to actually pay for it or make
lifestyle changes. As far as surgery, if it is an
elective...you will have to pay for it. Seems to me to
be a small price for getting rid of something that
seems to be so absolutely horrible to some of these
women.The other thing I find curious or even amusing,
is that so many women have "no idea when they will
begin their period". Speaking generally, most women
can chart their period from month to month..say for a
year. I did this when I was trying to get pregnant and
became so tuned into my body that I can get within a
day or so of beginning and ending my period. Oh...and
a great way to stop the staining (because you don't
know when you start...) would be to wear a panty liner
a day or so before you should begin. My bet would be
that most women don't pay attention to their body
unless it is screaming at them. Self awareness, not to
be confused with selfishness, is a key!"
Not everyone has regular periods! With some people it
is impossible to work out when they're due because
they pretty much come and go as they please. Mine were
like that from the age of 12 when I started, until I
started having provera injections in April 2011 (I am
22 now). I would sometimes get two or three separate
periods in a month, and sometimes I would have one for
the whole month. Sometimes the gap between would be a
few days, sometimes a few weeks. I suffered from
heavy, agonisingly painful periods ever since the
first one, and when I got to my late teens they were
getting worse and worse. I had literally all the
symptoms of endometriosis and the pill wasn't helping,
so they gave me a laparoscopy to see what was wrong.
Apparently everything was normal, which was kind of
frustrating because it felt like they didn't realise
how bad it was, and since there was nothing to treat
they were just going to leave it. I went back to my gp
after my next horrific period, and said I simply
couldn't cope with it any more; I was bleeding so
badly that a tampon and pad would leak after less than
an hour, making it impossible to go out anywhere
because of the lack of available toilets and fear of
leaking, and I couldn't sit down without feeling like
I'd been stabbed in the vagina (pretty difficult for a
wheelchair user!) He suggested the depo injection,
which I accepted as a last resort,and thank goodness
it has worked! I haven't had a period since my second
injection which was well over a year ago, and although
I get the odd twinge of stomach cramps sometimes, the
whole situation is 100% better.
I don't know what I'm going to do if I want children
in the future because I'm worried that if I stop the
depo to try and get pregnant, the symptoms will come
back, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I come
to it. So in answer to the main question,along with
most other people on this site, yes, I would stop my
periods, and for the moment, I have :)
No. ... [And] eventually I realized that
tampons were the cause of my never ending yeast
In a nutshell, no. However at age 53 now I
think maybe they have stopped. At least I
haven't had one for 4 months now. We shall see
since I have never been
I guess I have been lucky in that my periods didn't
usually bring pain. I didn't
often get cramps. No breast tenderness or
bloating either. No food cravings,
irritability or mood swings. But in my late 40's
and 50's I did get migraines and
those were no fun. They would sometimes start at
the beginning of my period.
And I did have heavy periods. Not in the
beginning. They got worse in my 30's so
no tampon was good enough. I had to use pads as
backup. And then eventually I
realized that tampons were the cause of my never
ending yeast infections.
My 40's became worse still with not only longer
periods but super heavy ones as
well. Night time was the worst. I would
use two Overnight pads overlapping and
then an assortment of smaller pads all over my panties
until they were almost
covered. Because I often sleep with my feet
elevated, the flow was shooting past
the pads and up my back. I couldn't sleep well
because I was always getting up to
change pads. And I was sleeping on underpads and
still managing to get stains
everywhere. I had little washable underpads that
I would sit on when I could. If I
didn't have those with me, then I might sit on a stack
of paper towels. And I would
try not to sit on light colored surfaces.
I had to change my wardrobe. I could no longer
wear colored pants. It was black
pants almost all the time and if I did wear any other
color it was dark brown or
navy blue. I never knew when my period would
arrive. I rarely had symptoms. I
never knew when it would end.
My mom told me to have a hysterectomy. That's
what she did. And she is paying for it
now. Once you remove it, other things shift
around. Her bladder did. She
needed surgery for that. Of course I could see a
hysterectomy if it is medically
warranted but I don't think mere heavy bleeding would
I became anemic off and on. I took low
doses of iron to try to prevent this. I
took Black Cohosh. It seemed to really
help! Or maybe it was just my age. But the
periods eventually got lighter. They got more
normal as far as the amount of flow
coming out of me. But they were still irregular
and might last a while.
And then it would seem that they stopped. Do I
miss them? No. Do I even think of
them? No. Not very often. Everything
seems pretty normal now. I never had any other
the problems that I was dreading that are associated
with menopause such as hot flashes or weight gain.
But thing I won't do is start wearing the white and
pastel pants. I have noticed
that older women often gravitate towards these
colors. And why do I think this is?
Because they can!
"Now I have Mirena IUD, which I was terrified of
getting, but fortunately
the insertion pain was not even as bad as the cramps I
used to have, so it
seems worth it."
I can hardly wait till I no longer have periods. I'm
43, never had children
and don't want to at this point.
It took half my life to get diagnosed with
Ovarian Cysts, & Uterine polyps despite my telling
EVERY doctor that I had
excruciating cramps and awful periods since my teens.
The b/c pills I tried back then all made me feel crazy
and didn't do much
else for me..
So I just tried to deal till I had a ruptured ovary
cyst take me to the
hospital 5 years ago.
Finally I've had 2 operations for these conditions,
and had no more
periods while taking b/c pills for the last 2 years.
[I highly recommend
this! It was great! If the pills can be safely
Unfortunately, I had to go off them due to high blood
interactions with other medications I have to take..
Now I have Mirena IUD, which I was terrified of
getting, but fortunately
the insertion pain was not even as bad as the cramps I
used to have, so it
seems worth it.
Downside is that I am back to having periods again,
but at least now they
are much more tolerable, and they may go away after a
That would be SO nice! To me these options seemed
better than a
hysterectomy, because usually people need some type of
Therapy forever after that anyway. So, If I can
tolerate IUD till
menopause, I'll be SO glad that I'll have a party to
celebrate!! Thank you
for your informative and archival site, it's very
interesting and helpful.
"WHY do women get saddled with this crap while men
can la-dee-da their way through a whole month?"
Y-E-S spells YES! I am sick of having to be prepared
for it, always on the lookout for it, and then it
comes and I get awful cramps and moodiness. I am prone
to leaks, so I have to take extra time and effort into
making sure that It doesn't happen, or if it does, I
have to pray that I can clean off the "evidence".
Travel is a nightmare during my period, trying to keep
from leaking onto motel or guest beds (that happened
just recently, and I bawled for over half an hour out
of embarrassment for having to leave a red splotched
sheet for the poor maid to clean! just recently, I
went to visit family, unintentionally and inavoidably
during my period. I tried not to shift when sitting or
laying down and was in constant fear of leaking onto
something. I stayed standing as often as possible, and
one night I had such heavy flow that I had to sit on
the guest toilet for several hours, feeling absolutely
miserable and angry. Now I am trying to use Ibuprofen
to control the flow, but if that doesn't work I am
going right to my doctor. I do try to see the period
as a natural process, for I am interested in and
connected (I feel) with nature, but I fail to
understand how our evolution resulted in the female
human bleeding constantly for up to a week every
month. In fact, it's surprising we're still
here--surely the blood was great advertising for
hungry prey, back when humans lived (and some still
do) in primitve rain forests, etc. Now I have a job,
and soon it will be time to deal with my period while
at work! :*( WHY do women get saddled with this crap
while men can la-dee-da their way through a whole
"I am so done with it, I can't wait to be rid of it
and I hate the fact I'm probably looking at at least
another ten years of this torture."
I've been reading all the stories on your website;
for the most part enjoying the black humor with which
many women look at the subject, and sympathising with
those who suffer too badly to find anything to laugh
To add my voice, YES, I would get rid of it in a
heartbeat. I'm 41 and got my first period aged 11.
Until I was well into my 20's I suffered excruciating
pain every month, to a point where, if I was driving,
I would have to pull the car over and stop until the
pain passed as it was too bad to concentrate on the
road. These days the actual pain is not so bad but now
I get headaches and migraines and an upset stomach for
the duration, and the bleeding goes on for 2-3 weeks
at a time. My doctor says this is normal, though
frankly I don't know how she can say that without
running any tests; unfortunately I live in America and
don't have any medical insurance so more in depth
medical care is not available to me. I have been
suffering symptoms of menopause for four years,
including crippling hot flashes which exhaust and
overwhelm me, but the process is not progressing and
my doctor informs me it's not uncommon for people my
age to suffer pre-menopausal conditions for up to ten
years. I've had the only child I'm going to have so
it's no use to me any more; my fiancee won't come near
me while I have my period and since that, on a bad
month, can be 3 out of 4 weeks, our relationship is
not what you might call close. On a low income I can
only afford the cheapest pads and tampons so I
frequently have rashes and skin problems in the most
sensitive areas; similarly while I am on hormonal
birth control it's the cheapest money can buy. It
stops me getting pregnant but it doesn't have any of
the other benefits good hormonal birth control can
provide and in fact has some pretty awful side
effects. I've tried skipping the sugar pills to try
and avoid the period but it doesn't work on this
I have NEVER been one of these "embrace your
womanhood" people, I am sure I would feel just as
female without a period, maybe more so as I wouldn't
have to limit my activities and mode of dress to
accommodate the monthly curse. I am so done with it, I
can't wait to be rid of it and I hate the fact I'm
probably looking at at least another ten years of this
Thanks for an interesting site, and for the
contributor stores which help me feel not so alone :)
"We don't live in a natural world anymore."
I take birth control pills and skip most of my
periods by skipping the sugar pills. I don't intend to
have children and it seems unhealthy to keep having
periods when I have no need to. If I changed my mind I
could easily just top taking birth control pills. I
feel that because women now experience so many more
periods than in pre birth control days it may not even
be healthy to keep having periods. I have done this
for several years. I am 24. I don't enjoy anything a
period. No sex, inconvenience, I could never remember
to keep tampons handy. I don't need a period to feel
like a woman. And so I had four periods a year. Unless
I don't refill a prescription in time and end up
having to take the sugar pills. From those who states
it's what natural keep this in mind. Women of yore
married young, had frequent pregnancies and
miscarriage and had far fewer periods as we do today.
That is what's natural. We don't live in a natural
world anymore. Some technological advances have
changed the playing field.
Periods are icky gross and annoying. Sticky stinky
blood coming out of you against your will? I can be a
strong independent woman without them, thanks.
"I really enjoy my period." Not.
I really enjoy my period. The little reminders left
behind on the sheets, ruined underwear, extra bathroom
trips! My dogs really appreciate it also. They just
love chewing on the plastic applicators.
Yes, I would stop menstruating
I've never had major problems with my period, but it
is definitely a
pain. I usually have cramps for the first few days,
then am stressed
for the rest of the week. My periods are not quite
regular, so I
always have a week beforehand of stress waiting to see
if it's come
yet or not.
I know I'm just 18, and I suppose I might want
children someday, but
if the choices were between getting rid of my period
and having kids,
I'd definitely take the no periods. If I ever really
want a baby,
there's always adoption. Menstruating is a messy,
and natural or not, I'd really rather go without.
(Also, quite unfair. Men really have nothing to
compare with it.)
Those who say that menstruation should "cherished,"
OBVIOUSLY have never had a period problem in their
The answer for me is an emphatic YES YES YES. I
have suffered endometriosis from my teens and have
surgery for it. I have the growths so severely
that I would loose too much blood to have all of them
removed. I also suffer from severe pain,
bloating, mood disorders, and flatulence each month
from my period. I also suffer the "cramps"
(feels more like being stabbed) some report feeling
when they ovulate. My doctor confirmed I develop
large cysts during ovulation. (Confirmed by
ultra-sound.) My hormones are all screwed
up. I have to wear a Mirana as it's the only
method I found to control the bleeding. (I get
uncomfortable frequently with that every once in
awhile due to the severe muscle contractions I get in
my uterus during my cycle.) I have bled so
badly, I have had to replace a mattress set, unable to
work because I couldn't get out of bed, and have had a
developed a semi-lunar valve murmur during my periods
due to blood loss. In fact the rip-roaring yeast
infections that always start right before my period
and can't be controlled with prescriptions are the
least of it. If this is a "natural, beautiful,
introspective" process, I think I'll go with the
artificial. I am severely sick from my
periods. This is auto-immune and my body is
destroying itself because of a menstrual cycle.
I knew that motherhood was never an option for me from
my early teens due to how severe my period problems
were and I am completely GREAT with that. Those
who say that menstruation should "cherished,"
OBVIOUSLY have never had a period problem in their
It's been utterly useless. [But] I've kept it.
I've been looking forward to menopause, just because
I know I won't
have my period anymore. As a woman who has no
whatsoever, my period has been nothing but a nuisance
for the last 34
years! Not to mention a huge expense! It's been
utterly useless. If a
hysterectomy wouldn't have interfered with my natural
I'd gladly have had one done. However, in this
not enough is known about the female reproductive
hysterectomies are often done much too radically. I
would never trust
my body, particularly my uterus, to this medical
system, so I've kept
it, and my period, all these years. Someday my
menopause will come! :)
We cant stop menstration [sic] because it is the work
Sent from my Nokia phone
No. Not until my body comes to that point naturally
My maternal grandmother grew up in a culture that
obsessively hid any evidence of a woman's reproductive
stages, including pregnancy.† While raising her own
daughters, she strongly avoided discussing any part of
the menstrual cycle, childbirth, menopause, or other
"women's topic" with them.† When my mother began her
period at 13, she thought she had damaged her internal
organs and was bleeding to death.† It was a kind
teacher who explained to her what was going on and
what to do about it.† Neither my mother nor my aunt
have a "comfortable" relationship with their
reproductive cycles.† My mother swore that the
situation would be different for any daughters she
Mama never hid the fact that she menstruated from me.†
She called it her "period," instead of using any
scientific terms (which she was unlikely to have been
taught), never acted as though it were a big deal, but
did say that she would be glad to get to menopause, so
she could be done with it.† I knew where the pads were
kept and how they were used as early as age 6.†In
fact, she had to scold me once for taking one to
school to show my classmates on the playground,
because they didn't believe what I'd told them...
I began menstruating at age 11. I have migraines for
2-3 days at the beginning of my period.†At first, I
also had severely irregular and heavy periods.† This
lasted until I was in my 30s, when I discovered that I
was allergic to the drugs given to most commercially
raised meat animals.† Shifting to a vegetarian (not
vegan and not macrobiotic) diet resolved the
irregularity problem.† My periods have been on a
22-day cycle for over 10 years now.† I still have the
migraines.† Those, I could get rid of and happily
never miss.† But I take it as a sign that my body is
ready for a rest and a little pampering, so I slow
down during my period and indulge myself a†little.†My
husband shares the same philosophy, especially as he
is grateful that he doesn't have to try to cope with
wild mood swings and irritability.† I differ from many
of the ladies who have posted here in that I don't
feel I am "getting in touch with my feminine side,"
"connecting with womankind," or any of the new age
silliness.† I am not a white light and unicorns kind
of person.† Instead, I am "recharging" my creativity
and my connection with the inner me, both of which
strongly enhance the other areas of my life.† Also,
the wait until the bleeding stops seems to strengthen
the desire between me and my husband.† No loss there!
I have two daughters of my own.† They are being raised
with the same openness toward information that will
impact their bodies as I was.† I don't call it a
"period," because that is for me a "common" way of
expressing it that doesn't really describe what's
going on.† I've always called it my "moon time." One
of my daughters is out on her own now, and would
gladly dispose of hers if she could, because she was
born with a birth defect that damaged her reproductive
system when the surgery was done to preserve her
life.† Her periods are painful. I truly feel for her
with them.† She needs and deserves pampering on those
days.† My younger daughter is not yet old enough to
know much.† But I am preparing her to take pride in
ALL the distinctions of womanhood.† She sees the best
and worst of it from her sister and from me.† But she
loves the days when I am bleeding, because we cuddle
up on the bed and talk, read stories, nap, snack,
whatever we feel like doing.† My bedroom becomes the
Red Tent for those days, and is a female-only
sanctuary devoted to fostering a sense of quiet, calm,
serenity, and creativity.†My husband only comes in
when he's bringing us something to snack on or another
Menopause?†I have begun to show symptoms of it, but
only just.† I am planning a natural menopause, using
whole foods, herbs, and yoga to make the transition
easier and more pleasant.† There is strength in
knowledge, I've always heard. My research and planning
for this phase of my life started years ago.†I plan to
handle this stage with an attitude of peacefulness,
No. I would not give up the bleeding years.† They have
taught me too much about who I am and how strong I can
be.† They have taught me to slow down and give myself
time to reflect.† They have given me opportunities to
become closer to my mother and my daughters.† That's
worth the discomfort and the occasional mess.
Age 47 in Tennessee, USA
So, based on the experience of NOT having my period
for 23 months straight, I would definitely be happy if
I could make it cease.
I don't know the exact age I began menstruating, but I
think it was around
age 12 or 13. I am now 40. I had pretty
severe cramps in my teenage
years. The timing of my periods have always been
fairly regular, and the
flow has been light, with the duration usually being
about 1 week. I've
never recorded them on a calendar, as I have not
really been concerned
enough to do such a thing. Occasionally
menstruation has started while
being completely unprepared for it, but for the most
part, it tends to
notify me that it is there during my first bathroom
visit and wipe in the
morning. So, thankfully, not too many
messes. I had always just accepted
the fact that, as women, we have to endure this every
month. It is mostly
just an annoying inconvenience for me. Kind of
like when you cut the tip
of your index finger by mistake, and have to modify
some of the things you
do daily because you don't want to apply pressure at
the end of your index
finger until it has healed. I guess I had never
really given too much
thought to what life would be like without
menstruating until I became
pregnant at 37. Nine months without menstruating
was so wonderful!
(However, pregnancy introduces some unique new
physical challenges!) Then
on top of the nine months, your period normally
doesn't return while
breastfeeding. Another year passed after my son
was born, and still no
period. Yay! I had planned to breastfeed
long term, and was incredibly
disappointed when my period returned 14 months after
giving birth, despite
the fact that I was still breastfeeding. After a
quick online search, I
discovered that 14 months is the average length of
time for menstruation to
return for a woman who continues to
breastfeeding. I have to admit... I
immediately starting thinking about becoming pregnant
again! So, based on
the experience of NOT having my period for 23 months
straight, I would
definitely be happy if I could make it cease.
And that is coming from
someone who doesn't really have any adverse
side-effects from it. I am
definitely going to read more on the vegan diet!
I like being in tune with my body.
I don't think so.
As I type this, I am holding my 2-week-old daughter,
my third child. I know
that I was able to have my precious daughters because
of my periods. I see
my period as a natural part of being a woman, and was
taught this. I have
never really felt a stigma or "uncleanliness"
associated with menstruating.
I also know other women who are currently on birth
control, and haven't had
a period in over a year, and feel that it isn't right.
They are young and
want to feel that their body is doing what its
When I first started my periods at 11, they were
weird, and inconsistent. I
know I went through quite a few really painful cycles
in my teens, where
all I could do (when not at school) was lay in bed
with a heating bag on my
tummy or lower back, but by the time I was 17, my
cycles had settled down.
I was able to accurately predict within 1-2 days when
my next one would be
by the time I was in university, and only missed that
count a few times,
mostly due to stress and improper nutrition. I also
learned to predict my
ovulation based on body temperature and other clues. I
like being in tune
with my body.
I am currently 29, and don't plan on having any more
children. However, I
would not give up my period. I also don't plan on
using hormonal birth
control, as the times I used it between my children,
it messed up my
period, made it unpredictable, and didn't actually
prevent me getting
pregnant. I would much rather just deal with it on a
monthly basis they way
I did before getting pregnant the first time, letting
my body run its
In response to those who say that its unfair that we
have monthly menses,
and many mammals don't - many larger mammals only
ovulate for a few short
days each year. We are able to get pregnant 12 times a
year, instead of
only 1 or 2 times, and are also able to control
when/if we get pregnant. I
personally feel that this choice is worth bleeding
once a month.
*Sent from the west coast of Canada*
I think it should be treated as normal and not gross
HI- I have been reading the different articles on
your website and I find them fascinating. I am
e-mailing in response to if I would stop having
periods if I could. My answer is below.
I would definitely stop menstruating if I could. I
don't get periods much and when I do they aren't very
bad, so they're almost pointless .I don't want
children and I don't see anything magical about birth,
pregnancy, or menstruating. That said I don't think it
should be looked at as a bad thing, and I think,
despite the discomfort some women have and the drag it
is, I think it should be treated as normal and not
gross or unsanitary. Isn't this blood supposed to be
the cleanest thing that can come out of the body,
considering it is meant to feed a baby? So I think it
would be nice if people didn't label menstrual blood
as dirty. I also think that people should use
menstruation and all that be the only source of
empowerment for women. Again, I'm not saying it's bad,
but frequently in women's art, for example, it is
through depictions of periods or blood or birth or
pregnancy that women are depicted as strong. I think
there are other ways that women are strong and it
sometimes depresses me that this is the only source of
strength we are sometimes labelled with.
Girls and women do most of the physical work and
yet suffer this damn thing.
I have started my menstruation when I was eleven and
not even a year has
passed. I'm only twelve now. I know it's too early to
hate periods but I
hate it so much! It's so irritating! Damn! I want to
get the hell rid of it!
I wish I was a boy. I hate being a girl. Plus my
mother has so many rules
against roaming around here and there, watching tv etc
during periods. She
tells me to sit in one place. Hell, is this a life?
Sometimes, I feel like
killing myself. I'd rather die in hell than get this
menstruation. I always have heaby flow on the first
day and I keep counting
until my periods will be over. But how long do I have
to stay like this?
Years and years, hell that's too much! Do I now have
to wait until I'm 55 to
get rid of this awful thing. Why doesn't modern
science find out some ways
to kill this awful *** periods. Oh! I hate the thought
of having children
when I grow up! I don't want children for whom I have
to survive through
this pain all long. And why do girls menstruate right
from the age of 10 or
11. Does anyone marry at this time or what, huh? Why
doesn't period occur
when a girl turns to a women. Hell of a period! Cannot
the modern scientist
find out some way to help us women. What does a man
do, anyway that he has
to be compared to a god? Girls and women do most of
the physical work and
yet suffer this damn thing. Why doesn't men understand
our problem and
please, I request you to find out some ways to stop
Yes Yes Yes
Started my period at age 10, and I am turning 50 this
year, so it has been with me for 40 years! 40 years of
spending 1/4 of my lifetime bleeding. For what?
I was diagnosed with PCOS some years ago, and have had
several bouts of tumor removal over the years. I was
never able to have children, why do I need this to
continue? I am not ashamed of it, nor do I feel
that it is "dirty" in the sense of my doing something
evil or shameful, but it is surely a mess- I get
diarrhea for the whole 6 days, I should buy stock in
Advil since I need to use so much of it, I soak
through a super tampon worn with a pad every 3 or 4
hours for the first 2 days, I sleep on a towel
and hope that I can get through the night without
soaking through the sheets, I casually drop my black
jacket on my chair at work in case I leak through, I
get cramps that make me consider yanking out my uterus
with pliers, I have a closet full of dark colored
pants and skirts and have not worn white in years.
When it starts now, it almost makes me cry.
Why can't modern science find a way to turn off your
periods and only restart them when you are trying to
get pregnant? Most other female mammals
are spared it, why not humans? I don't see any
evolutionary advantage to it and if it is an example
of intelligent design, it is a pretty mean spirited
one. As a teenager, mine were rather irregular,
but now they are usually right on time, regular as
clockwork-figures, doesn't it? I am writing
tonight because I thought of this website when I
started bleeding this morning, at the airport on the
way back from a trip-I could almost hear it saying
"Hi, did you miss me? I didn't want you to go home
without me!, Now you get to sit in a comfy airplane
seat for 5 hours with cramps!" Early last
year I went 2 months without my friend and was
hopeful, but of course it came back. I have a
nightmare vision of being 80 years old, toddling down
the street in Florida with a walker,wearing a purple
hat and a huge purse, and still having to buy ##$$@@
I do like some of what I have been reading on this
website about women who embraced a healthier lifestyle
and saw changes for the better concerning their
periods.. I am not sure that I am ready to
become a vegan but cutting out processed carbs, white
flour, and sweets, de-stressing, and exercising more
can't hurt and may help. I hope that if I
continue to make these changes I may see some
improvement during these last years of my
cycle. I am in fact finding myself craving
healthier foods, I want to eat fruit and vegetables
and salad all the time, and I have discovered that if
I avoid carbs and sweets I crave them less, so I hope
I can improve my overall health this year in all
ways. I am at the age now where I don't
really care what I say, so I have told everyone I know
that the only thing I want for my birthday is my last
period! I don't hate being a woman or hate
my body, but enough is enough.
Age 49.5, USA
I have endometriosis, and have been crippled by my
periods since day one. I am now on birth control pills
for the rest of my bleeding career to be able to live
a normal life and not allow the diseased tissue to
spread even more.
The vast majority of mammals do NOT bleed as part of
their cycle, so why should I? Absolutely pointless and
not necessary to be a fertile animal. How did it
evolve that an upright naked mammal was to bleed all
down the insides of her long legs for years on
Read a long contribution
from a man (on another page to save space).
Now I know it happens for a very good reason.
I probably wouldn't want it to end. I want to have
kids when I'm older. It doesn't ruin my life in any
[Later she wrote] I don't have any pains from it. It
doesn't affect my life in any way. I wouldn't be able
to have kids if it stopped. I started in when I was 12
and thought it was pointless. Now I know it happens
for a very good reason.
I’m only 13 but i sure would as long as I'd still be
able to have kids when i was older?
i get dizzy and faint and before and after my periods
i get a brown discharge, which warns me when I’m going
to get my period.
It is sooooooo annoying and all the blood goes to back
where my bum is when im sleeping ANNOYING much??
Read 2 long contributions
from the same person (on another page to save space).
Why not have a time, monthly, that is devoted to
slowing down and turning
For most of my life I hardly menstruated at all.
Three-four times a year,
inward and comfort and warmth and just being?
mainly brownish spotting. I always felt that this
indicated that hormonally
I was not quite normal sexually speaking. Throughout my
20s I never
conceived (with first husband, who later easily got
another woman pregnant,
so obviously it wasn't him) and then with my second
husband I suddenly
became fertile and had four children in a decade (my
30s). After my last
child was born I had an IUD put in. With that my periods
vanished. Nothing. Which I always felt uneasy about --
what was it doing to
my body?? It gave me some trouble the last year and was
near the end of its
life expectancy anyway, so I had it taken out and since
then have had
frequent periods (<28 days) and actually *bleed* now,
bright red blood.
This is something really new and different for me -- and
time it happens, I keep finding myself with this sort of
feeling that my body is finally working the way it's
supposed to. At 45 and
not yet mentally ready to be a crone, it makes me feel
like, "Oh. Yes, I AM
still young." Not ready to give that up.
There's also a romantic aspect to it, an animal
primality that I find
compelling, and associated with that is my interest in
cultivating a more
simple, natural lifestyle that acknowledges human life
as optimally alive
when in harmony with the earth and its cycles. Why *not*
have a red tent? [Women
still use menstrual huts around the world.]
Why not have a time, monthly, that is devoted to slowing
down and turning
inward and comfort and warmth and just being? Having
spent my life
bombarded by the relentlessly scheduled structure of our
society, it sounds
lovely. Makes me wonder, how might women experience
differently if they did that, if they were supported in
doing that, if we
as a society treated it as a special, life-affirming
In response to your
question about whether I would want to stop
It's disgusting, humiliating and DEGRADING. And it
causes severe physical
wholeheartedly answer YES. [The writer is 57
and mental pain and discomfort. I reckon that's more
than sufficient reason.
At age 17 I went on the pill which did help a bit, but
not much. Eventually
my gynaecologist put me on a pill called Cerazette about
6 years ago. This
pill is truly amazing as it STOPS all menstruation
completely! It does take
a couple of months before it actually works, but I can
recommend it to all
my fellow sufferers.
However, the fact that I had to wait almost 35 years
before a gynaecologist
came up with a real solution just goes to show that
researchers, doctors and
gynaecologists don't take the menstruation problem
gynaecologist could have put me on Cerazette immediately
after it was put on
the market (I believe it came on the market in 2000)
instead of waiting 5
years, even though I had been begging her to help me for
Cerazette is one of those pills that you take
continuously without a week's
break. It also seems to eliminate perimenopausal
symptoms as I have none of
these whatever. Either that or I haven't entered the
perimenopause yet :-).
And yes, I'm still taking it. My gynaecologist suggested
I stop as she
thought I might have arrived at menopause, but I'm not
taking ANY risks as
far as that sort of thing is concerned.
I just wish this wonderful pill had been available when
menstruating, so I could have avoided all those years of
"I now take low dose birth control pills
Hi! Great site - I'm on it to research for a paper and I
ran across this
and must only have a period about every 4
months. It surprises me how few
people know about this method and how apparently
underused it is.
forum, which perplexed me. You can easily stop your
period by a far less
drastic and nonsurgical method than the ones suggested
by the commenters.
I and several people I now take low dose birth control
and must only have a period about every 4 months. It
surprises me how few
people know about this method and how apparently
underused it is. My
period was pretty mild, but I just didn't like bothering
with it. Hope
other people find this useful!
"Of course I would!"
If I had the option of removing my period all together,
I'm 19 at the moment and I am had it with my period. I
started when I was 12
I'm sick of the monthly pains, the staining of the
sheets and clothing, the
hassle of finding a toilet to change pads when I am out,
disposing of them
in the most secrete way I can and still being found out
what I'm disposing
of. Then there's the running out of pads and the
humilation of buying them
at the store, my mum telling my dad when I'm 'on it',
the mood swings and
then there's the awful heavy flow I get on the first 3
days which drives me
I'm seriously fed up!
"I am delighted to be a woman. And menstruation is
part of that. . . . I live in the Midwest, USA, where
menstruation is never discussed."
I love my period. It's a periodic check that my body is
properly (or not). My first cycle came when I was 10
years old. It was
regular as clockwork for over a decade -except during
pregnancy. I had
my period while breastfeeding, although not as often.
After my third
live birth, my husband gifted me with a vasectomy. It's
the only birth
control that actually worked for me. The time between
as I hit my 30's. Soon, I was beginning my cycle every
17-19 days. At
39, I had an endometrial ablation to stop excessive
bleeding. I also
received 2 units of whole blood. Thank you, anonymous
I'm one of the few who still have full periods after
they usually only last 4 days. It's like being a
I'm sure to many this sounds like a horror story, but
it's not. I am
delighted to be a woman. And menstruation is part of
will catch me eventually, and I guess that's part of
being a woman too,
but now for a while yet. Women in my family hit
menopause around 60. I
am 42. And I live in the Midwest, USA, where
menstruation is never
who visited MUM in my
house sometimes told me it was the first time
they had discussed menstruation with anyone, like
their fellow visitors.]
I've been using a menstrual cup . . . .
I'm 46 now, I began when I was 11, I don't have children
and I never wanted
to, but I can't see a reason for me to stop, since
periods never gave me any
problem. Actually I find it a sort of reassuring
periodic check. I'm quite
on the take it easy side, and a spot on my underwear
won't ruin my day.
Last summer I had a nasty rush on my inner upper thighs
(heat - sweat -
trekking and pads!), since then I've been using a menstrual cup,
to change my routine before..) and now I can't even talk
Oh YES I would
I would DEFINITELY stop my menstruation if I could.
Right now, in fact. I'm
only 18 but I'm already looking into methods to do so
when I save enough
money. I can't WAIT. Originally I wanted to get a
after reading through all the risks and dangers and
life expectancy, I've had to search for other options.
litigation seems to be the most viable option.
I have absolutely no desire to have kids - for one
thing, I value my
personal freedom too much. For another, it's exceedingly
I'll ever have a partner, and I definitely don't think I
should be allowed
to bring up a child all by myself. Should all the
change, I could still adopt. Menstruation brings nothing
but pain and
frustration for me - first mood swings, then
debilitating pain, and then the
sheer discomfort of bleeding all over the place without
being able to
control it. Not to mention the psychological discomfort
- I'd rather not
have a monthly reminder of my female body. I'm
definitely not male either,
though, so I can't speed up the process by having myself
be certified as
So yes, if my fairy godmother appeared right now to
grant me three wishes,
getting rid of this thrice-damned menstruation cycle
would definitely be one
When I was about 40, my periods got really heavy, and I
became anemic. My doctor put me on birth control pills
(I had one child, at 21) and my periods stopped; if any
doctor had suggested that I stop the pill I would have
laughed in his/her face. At age 49 or 50, I
stopped the pills to see what would happen and found
that I had hit menopause. Yay!!
Evolution hasn't kept up with civilization. In the 21st
century,we certainly don't need to be fertile every
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OMG YES I WOULD.
I know I’m only 18, but ever since I first got mine
around 15 or so, I’ve hated it with a passion. I don’t
have kids, I don’t really want kids (maybe that’s just
because I’m 18..) But there’s got to be a permanent way
for getting rid of the monthly horror! I have
cramps,irritability, the works...nothing seems to help,
no amount of ibuprofen works for even an hour for me.
And I can’t get my tubes tied..no doctor will even think
of doing it. I think periods should be optional. I don’t
want to have to wait until I’m like 50 or until I have a
kid for my body to say “Ok! I’m done!” Periods are just
a huge irritation.
"Damn Right I would"
I have just finished my 438th period. Any sane
individual at this point in her life would plead, beg,
whimper, and fall to her knees in prayer if it would
mean finally putting a stop to having to endure another
monthly horror show. I have been flirting with the idea
of taking bcp's continuously as a means of stopping my
period, but at the last moment would ditch the plan for
fear of all the potential side effects. At this
point I can almost say I don't even care about getting
cancer or a life threatening blood clot if I could just
stop having a period. That's how bad it's
gotten. It sounds so dramatic but all the moments,
days, weeks, years of going through the endless
debilitating side effects of menstruation has pushed my
drama levels to exceeding heights! Also, it's such
a huge part of women's lives but it hardly is talked
about or reflected back in art, television, newspapers,
magazines, etc. It's like the purple elephant in
the room. No one talks about it so nothing really
bad is going on........
I have tried the 'natural' approach; acupuncture,
supplements, diet, meditation, positive thinking, you
name it. But the bottom line is having my period
is debilitating and wreaks havoc on my life. What
bothers me most is how desempowering it is for me -
producing & creating anything long lasting seems
impossible as just when I get focused, energized, and
creative, the next horror shower is there and pulls me
under yet again.
"[M]enopause was THE BEST thing that ever happened
When I was younger and still menstruating, although I
HATED the pain,
bloating, diarrhea, and, most of all, the MESS of
getting periods, I feared
and dreaded the prospect of someday going through
menopause because I
thought it would make me instantly "old." Still,
if someone had offered me
a safe way to stop menstruating without "getting old,"
as I saw it, my
answer would have been Sign me up right now! I began
menstruating at 10, and although it wasn't the biggest
deal in the world, I always hated the
mess and discomfort. Never found anything to enjoy about
I went through menopause in my early 50's, and to my
surprise, I DIDN'T at all feel like I had suddenly
gotten "old" - in fact, in some ways, it turned
out that menopause was THE BEST thing that ever happened
to me! At the beginning, when my periods were
getting irregular and more infrequent, I remember that
there were a handful of times when I was sure I'd
finished for good ñ and I was EXTREMELY resentful and
angry when that turned out not to be the case.
When I finally knew the whole thing was over and done
with (i.e., I hadn't gotten a period in well over a
year, maybe even closer to two years), I was elated.
I'm 59 now, a life-long New Yorker, and I don't miss it
Reply to earlier
comments down the page
"The other thing I find curious or even amusing, is
that so many women have 'no idea when they will begin
their period'. Speaking generally, most women can
chart their period from month to month..say for a
year. I did this when I was trying to get pregnant and
became so tuned into my body that I can get within a
day or so of beginning and ending my period."
Well, bully for you. I have been menstruating for 35+
years, and I would say that the first 20 years were
predictable and uneventful. The last 15 years have
been hell. Every 24 days? 35 days? Sure, whatever! Two
periods in one month is the ultimate cruelty.
Just when you think it's normal, its not. Yes, I have
kept a calendar, for years...a calendar of TORTURE.
"The many problems mentioned on your website are a
direct result of a woman taught to hate that aspect of
her self, including poor nutrition and decreased
Menstruation is a gift given to women that patriarchal
societies have turned women against. As a little
girl growing up, I was taught that having my period
was dirty. I dreaded having periods once upon a
time. What's more, I wished I was a man because
I was taught that women were a disgrace to God.
My perception of Self was shaped by family,
community, research on female anatomy conducted by
prejudiced males, research conducted by male
psychologists, religion and even other women whose
perceptions of Self had been altered. This
perception of course caused me to resent that aspect
of Self that is empowering, spiritually powerful and
natural. Furthermore, my periods at the time
were painful and uncomfortable. They also lasted
four or more days. My menstrual flow was heavy
and it smelled. It's amazing what the Mind
creates, not just in our thinking, but how it affects
our body physically. Mind, body and spirit, it's
Women, in patriarchal societies, were taught to
disconnect body from mind and spirit. The many
problems mentioned on your website are a direct result
of a woman taught to hate that aspect of her self,
including poor nutrition and decreased exercise.
It's true that nutrition and exercise impacts quality
and duration of a womanís menstrual flow. I know
this from personal experience. With good
nutrition, exercise and a healthy state of Mind toward
life and Self, my periods are only 2 to 3 days
long. My periods do not smell. I only have
a heavy flow the first day I start. The cramps have
I have learned over the years that menstruating is a
time of receiving
spiritual medicine. This is when a woman is in
her greatest power. Perhaps this is the reason
why women were taught periods are dirty and unwomanly,
because a woman in her power is a time when she is
closest to God. It's a time when she is most
spiritual. Why? Her womb is expelling the
old to prepare for the new. It is always keeping
the uterus healthy for a new life. This is on a
physical level. On a mental level she is being
challenged to throw out thinking that does not serve
her well so that she can embrace the state of Mind
that will serve her well In return, a healthy
Mind produces a healthy fetus. She is also
challenged to exist on a physical plane or to become
connected to her spiritual Self. Menstruation is
a time to realign body with Mind and Spirit; bringing
the three in harmony so that she can produce a strong
and healthy child. What is wrong with
The blood tells the woman the state of health she is
in, not just
physically, but mentally, emotionally and
spiritually. If she is having a bad experience
it's a time for her to re-examine her overall
health. It's a time when she is able to decide
what course of action to take. For example,
blood that smells could be a sign that she is
consuming too much sugar, refined carbohydrates,
refined fats or that her body is too acidic. A
heavy flow could indicate lack of exercise, poor
nutrition, stress, obesity, diabetes or perhaps it
could be a medical condition needing professional
care. Pain and cramps can indicate stress,
caffeine, smoking, excess sugar consumption.
It is time woman know their truth, one that has
not been altered by illusion. It is time she knows her
truth so that she can help other woman come to know
their truths. Menstruation is not what it seems
for many. That is illusion.
There is a resurgence of truth that is resurfacing
about women and their cycles; one that will help women
to love them Self, womanhood and menstruation.
Woman will once again feel empowered instead of
disempowered, like so many feel now. She will
once again love her divine Self, being a woman.
And her experiences with periods will once again
I love being a woman and I love the fact that I bleed
once a month
P.S. A healthy vagina does not
"When I had a
traumatic brain injury the cycle became shorter. .
. . When menopause hit I was never so happy."
The day my older sister's explained to me that I
would soon be getting my period I vividly recall
telling them I would get rid of as quick as possible.
Just 6 months from that talk I started my cycle. At
10.5. I hated it then, I hated it till the very last
day. It was always reliable. I could count on it
coming very 21 days.Ý When I had a traumatic brain
injury the cycle became shorter.Ý Because I didn't
have children I had my cycle most of adult life. When
menopause hit I was never so happy. Other then the hot
flashes. I am greatful to get rid of the bother.
Looking back now since I didn't have children, I had
my cycle longer then any of my sisters.
"The other thing I find curious or even amusing,
is that so many women have 'no
idea when they will begin their period.'"
I am quite entertained by some of your respondent's
regarding their monthly cycle. It is what it is! Do I
LIKE it...not really. Do I LOVE it...no.
Do I HATE it...again, not really. I mean...it is part
of being who I am.There are so many different options
out there for handling "problem" periods...the problem
is women don't find it "important" enough to actually
pay for it or make lifestyle changes. As far as
surgery, if it is an elective...you will have to pay
for it. Seems to me to be a small price for getting
rid of something that seems to be so absolutely
horrible to some of these women.
I am 47 and have never had my own biological
children. Would I have liked to be rid of my period
when I realized I would never have my own children?
Yes! Did I want it bad enough to pull the money out of
my pocket for it...no!
The other thing I find curious or even amusing, is
that so many women have "no idea when they will begin
their period". Speaking generally, most women can
chart their period from month to month..say for a
year. I did this when I was trying to get pregnant and
became so tuned into my body that I can get within a
day or so of beginning and ending my period.
Oh...and a great way to stop the staining (because
you don't know when you start...) would be to wear a
panty liner a day or so before you should begin. My
bet would be that most women don't pay attention to
their body unless it is screaming at them. Self
awareness, not to be confused with selfishness, is a
Thanks for your time and ear...
"To all of the women and girls who said that
menstruation was unnecessary/obsolete: you may have
Hi Harry! This is a contribution to the "would you
stop menstruating if you could?" And also, thank you
very much for making the awesome site, too!!
To all of the women and girls who said that
menstruation was unnecessary/obsolete: you may have
But I'm not talking about using birth control or
getting surgery; I mean NATURALLY women may not have
to bleed at all!
You see, I was reading about vegetarianism and how
that type of diet affected the menstrual cycle,
because I just became a vegetarian a few weeks ago. So
I found this site where a lady, her name is Debbie
Took, went into a lot of theories on how menstruation
may be normal, but NOT healthy. Because when people
switch over to eating a vegan (which is a bit
different from vegetarianism btw) diet their
menstruation may either get really light... or totally
stop, and never come back! Now, a lot of people may
think that absent menstruation is really unhealthy,
and that the person must not be getting enough
nutrients in their diet. But the lady's article
explains why the opposite may be true! Here's the link
to the article, and I'll post some quotes from the
Before I read her article, I would have said NO, no
way did I want to stop menstruating! Because I like to
bleed and use my awesome menstrual cups and cloth
pads!! But after reading the article, I've decided
that I like my body being healthy more than I like
bleeding, so...my answer now is yes, if it meant that
my body was in good health, then YES I wouldn't mind
if I stopped menstruating.
Ok, Here's some quotes!
In the 21st century 'developed' world, the women most
likely to report light or 'absent' periods are so
often the healthiest. They're often athletes - women
at the peak of physical fitness. And/or they're women
who have at least eschewed the disease-causing
substances listed above and following diets high in
raw plant foods. They may eat voraciously, but they
In general, the less healthy women are, the better
the diet (in terms of eating refined foods; she
explains that in the article too), the more they are
likely to be plagued by heavy periods. Studies have
shown that overweight women tend to have heavier
'Little bleeding', 'no observed flow', 'tablespoon of
blood', 'half a day mucous flow' - doesn't seem to
make sense, does it, when we've been led to understand
that the 'womb lining' has to be shed each month. But,
many women in developed countries following healthy
diets/lifestyles, some indigenous women, and gorillas,
don't seem to be shedding any womb lining, but are
still having babies! Why is that many, if not most,
women in developed countries do appear to shed a lot
of gunge along with the blood, but the most
natural-living women don't appear to?
One theory, (and this is backed to some extent by
scientific observations of monkeys), is that the womb
lining can, instead of being shed, be reabsorbed by
the body when not needed as a bed for the fertilised
'If the endometrial tissues are not needed - in a
truly healthy woman, as in animals in their wild
state, those tissues are mostly reabsorbed. What
remains is expelled over a short period of time as a
slight mucus discharge.' (Dr H G Beiler)
So - could it be that the womb lining that the
average woman has built up contains toxic substances
due to things ingested (like refined foods) and the
body is saying 'No way - don't want that reabsorbed
thank you!' and chooses instead to dump it?
Viktoras Kulvinskas in 'Survival in the 21st Century'
reports the case of a woman treated by Dr G S White,
who changed her diet to vegan. '[She] flowed bright
blood five or six days of each month [and] had such
severe cramps that she could not hold her position as
stenographer. [He treated her for six months, after
which her]periods changed to half a day mucous flow
with no blood at all. She was able to resume her work
and did so for two or three years. She married and has
had three daughters. Each of them had a mucous flow
for about half a day each month and are in perfect
health. One is married and had a healthy baby girl.'
'Menstruation (bleeding) is NOT a necessity following
ovulation...We have been conditioned to believe that
menstruation goes hand in hand with ovulation...Most
women, including myself, experience menstruation
because they are not truly clean on the
inside...Menstruation is the body's desperate attempt
to free itself from toxins, and many females
experience PMS in addition to the needless bleeding.
Abdominal pain (cramping), headaches, fatigue and
irritability do NOT signify an optimal state of
health, yet most of us brush these symptoms off as the
norm. If you feel such symptoms, this is how your body
is communicating that it wants you to change what you
are doing; we must listen to Nature's
messages...Presently, on a mainly raw diet, I do not
even realize that I am menstruating until I feel moist
and decide to take a peek'.
From a 16yr old living in Georgia, U.S.A. (I'm
orginally from New Jersey though!)
"[M]enstruation meant saying good bye to freedom"
- and what's this about whistling?
If I had been asked the question before I hit
menopause, the answer would have been a resounding
Yes! After nearly 4 decades of menstrual problems, I
didn't have any problems with menopause, which I felt
was a case of "Justice at last" I SO do not miss
I began menstruating at 12, which I felt was way too
young. (I know some women begin even earlier and they
have my deepest sympathies.) There were two reasons
for this: the memory of potty training was still
reasonably fresh, I had achieved a control over
bladder and bowels and menstruation felt like that
control had been ripped away. The second reason was
that menstruation meant saying good bye to freedom,
women definitely had a lot more restrictions placed on
them back then than men did.
I was most interested to read that many of the other
women who have had problems with menstruation
mentioned diarrhoea. I always got what I thought of as
"period diarrhoea" but no one ever mentions it.
The cycles of the moon story never cut it for me, as
I tended, if left to my own devices, to have a 3 week
cycle, of which about 10 days were spent bleeding. In
reality, you have a lot more chance of getting in
touch of your feminine side during ovulation. I don't
see anything "feminine" or "girly" about the bleeding.
I think of "feminine" as clean and sweet-smelling.
Oozing blood isn't clean, it's messy, I don't think we
are going to see menstrual blood scented products on
the market any time soon and period diarrhoea has its
own particular stench.
As a teenager, my belly would swell a dress size with
menstruation, when the period started it was not
unusual for me to lose consciousness (did that one
time on a school trip, going down marble stairs). On
occasions, the pain was such that I would chew my
blankets to stop crying out. No one needs to be
tortured. The worst part was knowing that the same
torture was coming next month. Once the first couple
of days were over, it still felt as if I had been
kicked in the guts.
If someone found that urinating was agony, or lifting
their arms, or chewing or whatever, then the medical
profession would admit that they had a problem. When
it comes to menstrual pain, especially in teenagers,
it's not seen as a problem. The doctors warble on
about possible risks to future fertility if they try
to treat the problem with something effective (I
already knew I didnít want to have children) and even
trot out the "Once youíve had a baby, the menstrual
problems will go away" line. Again, as other women
who've described their experiences here demonstrate,
this is egregious bullshit. When I was a teenager,
there was a story doing the rounds that Catholic and
Jewish women were more prone to dysmenorrhoea than
Protestant women because they were trained by their
religions to feel more guilt. My Protestant friends
assured me this was bullshit.
I would see the female reproductive system as
possible evidence of "intelligent design", or rather,
"dumb as dogshit design", as it is hard to imagine how
a system that works so badly for so many women could
survive evolutionary selection. The fact that people
look after each other when they are unwell - and
menstruation can make you feel exceedingly unwell, may
explain how the system got past the selection test.
[An interesting side note here: youíve probably heard
that "breastfeeding stops you getting pregnant" and
also met women who fell pregnant whilst breastfeeding.
That breastfeeding stopped pregnancy used to be true,
about 15,000 years ago, before humans took to basing
their diet on grains. I have wondered if a diet
without grains would reduce menstrual problems.]
If I could redesign humans, I would make menstruation
optional, unless you were specifically trying to fall
pregnant, in which case it does have a point. I would
also get rid of underarm hair, pubic hair, facial hair
and underarm sweat, I'd build in immunity to colds and
'flu and I'd make whistling
impossible [yer MUM hates that nervous, barely
52 year old
North Queensland, Australia
"I just have to wear a pad and pray it doesn't
Yes, perhaps. If I was able to control it, like
urination, I wouldn't mind it at all - the pain sucks,
of course, but I can handle it. But I hate the feeling
I get that I'm not at all in control of what happens
down there. I just have to wear a pad and pray it
doesn't leak...I'm not young or ancient enough to have
incontinence problems! I am not sexually active, nor
do I plan on having children, so I don't use my period
as a pregnancy test. I'm glad when my medications get
switched around a lot and causes my period to skip or
be very light.
I think I would miss it if it went away for a long
Memories, you know?
- A girl from California.
End periods forever
I started my cycle when I was 11. I will turn 42 in
March. I have had enough. I do not have kid and do not
plan on having any. I had my tube tied almost two
years ago so there would be no accidents. If there
were a way that I could get rid of my periods without
surgery, I would take it without hesitation. I have
been trying to find a way to permanently end them
without having to take the pill for a couple of years.
All they are is a bother to me. I can never plan
spontaneous sex with my significant other because I am
never sure when old mother nature is going to show up.
Now he works out of town and I cannot plan on when to
go visit him because I never know when it is going to
occur. I hate my periods. If they were going to serve
me a purpose I could see them continuing but I am not
going to reproduce so why continue in the monthly
disgusting body function that God gave us. We should
be able to say when we want it to stop. It is our
body. We should have the right to chose if we want to
end our menstruation just like we have choice of right
to life. Doctors and insurance should not have a say
YES! Sign me up NOW!
Yes!! Please!!! I was on Depo for about 11 years and
after so much nagging from every doctor that Depo is
not healthy to use for so long and I'd have
osteoporosis, etc I finally stopped using Depo 3 years
ago, got my tubes tied and MEA. I have no interest in
having children and even the thought of being pregnant
is my worst nightmare and absolutely disgusting to me.
I'd rather have tapeworm! So OK, I got the whole
contraceptive thing out of the way, but I still get a
period and I hate it! This is so primitive! Birds have
the right idea; lay an egg and wait till it hatches to
a baby bird. Better yet, bury the eggs like a turtle.
If this were a man's issue, there would have been a
better solution ages ago! But no, there are too many
feminist women that feel empowered and more 'womanly'
or something because they have a period. Right now, I
know I should start my period today or tomorrow.
Tomorrow I have a race to run. Would my period
interfere with my run? You bet it would, just like it
will interfere with everything else in life. If you
look at the math, you get your period once a month for
5-7 days. So you spend nearly a quarter of your life
from your teen age years until you're in your 50s with
this misery. Somebody fix this please! It's just not
Yes. "I think for me the reason I don't like
having a period is...the mess."
I am working on my Masters in Women's Health, but I
still hate having a period every month. I find it very
interesting to read people's responses. I have to
write a response to a discussion question that asks us
to contrast and compare modern day views on coming of
age and a girl's transition into womanhood...including
menstruation to those in Biblical times. I found a
site that spoke of how the transition into womanhood
(in the Bible) was a time of celebration and the women
did not have to do there regular duties of cooking,
serving, etc. The rested and relaxed for the days they
were on their period. I think that I wouldn't mind my
period so much if it were like that nowadays! hahaha.
However, I think for me the reason I don't like having
a period is...the mess. I don't have a long period,
but it is heavy for the 1st two days. I feel so dirty,
yucky and stinky. I think that I would still feel that
way no matter how many showers I took during that time
of the month. I don't feel girly or anything pleasant
when I feel that gross. Others may think that I am not
proud to be a woman or some other granola crap, but it
is not true. I am proud to be a woman! I don't think a
period or female organs define ones femininity. It is
all about attitude! Everyone is entitled to their own
opinion because that is what it is...an opinion...not
fact. I did say "I", which means that is how "I" feel
and I don't expect everyone to agree with me and I'm
not pushing my opinion on anyone.
Yes. "I don't need to be unhappy, unhealthy and in
pain to prove my womanhood."
I'm 45 and have had my period since I was 11 years
old. I have had cramps, diarrhea, moodiness (to the
point of annoying even myself), headaches, backaches,
iron shortages, tiredness and a laundry list of
symptoms the entire time. I have had doctors prescribe
heavy drugs that knock me out and make it impossible
to function. I have had other doctors tell me there
was no such thing as PMS. I have had a few doctors who
have helped, so it was not all bad on the doctor
front, but unfortunately too many doctors all together
for a problem only some of them think is real. I past
any age of wanting more children and am more than
ready for the periods to end. However my mother and
grandmother both had the cycles well into their 60's,
so no hope for an early end!
People have included how proud they are to have
periods to prove they are women. I believe I would
still be a woman if the menstruation stopped. I don't
need to be unhappy, unhealthy and in pain to prove my
womanhood. Every woman is different and I am happy
(and jealous) of the women who do not have any the of
extreme problems that afflict others. But those of us
who have had problems should be able (if ever
possible, please!!!) to put an end to a very unhappy
Yes! "Enough already"
Hell yes. We need a once a year pill that allows you
one cycle a year--you take it, you predictably get one
cycle, lasting no more than 3 days, and you're done
for another year, with no weight gain/loss, loss of
sexual desire, effect on future fertility or increased
risk of malignancy.
It would be a blockbuster drug. Someone's gotta come
up with it.
Enough already in Los Angeles
"No, absolutely not."
Oh dear. No, absolutely not. (Unless my current
circumstances changed and I started having such heavy
periods that were a threat to my life.)
It makes me really sad to read some of the comments
from women who say they hate their uterus, that must
be really heart-breaking to feel that way about one's
own body. There are lots of diseases (cultural and
physical based) that can provoke people to start
hating parts or all of their bodies, and it always
makes me sad to hear about people suffering that way.
I know some people think that the whole "connection to
the earth and moon" is much too new-agey fru-fru for
them as a rationale for keeping the menstrual cycle,
and I certainly don't think that women that don't
menstruate (for whatever reason) are less than fully
WOMEN, but I definitely like to connection to myself
that my cycle gives me. A lot of the time I lose track
of time, the passage of days and weeks, in the chaos
of everything I'm trying to remember to do, but I like
that my body keeps right on progressing with it's
functions without my conscious thought needed-- my
lungs breathe, my heart beats, my uterus sheds it's
lining monthly. All is in working order! And, as a
sexually active adult female, it's always nice to have
a check in to let me know I'm not unexpectedly
I have found my own ways of managing and handling the
blood and occasional cramps (raw kombucha, moon cups
and fabric pads, here I come baby!) that work for me,
so I would never want to give up my menstrual flow
artificially. Maybe if they didn't work, I would feel
differently. I'm sure the onset of menopause will
produce it's own issues! But hopefully once it's over,
I won't be fertile anymore and won't have to worry
that a lack of blood is an indication that I might be
It's worth mentioning however, that for the girls and
women who have already commented while in their teens
that they absolutely HATE their cycles, that the first
several years of menstruation can be the most
chaotic-- onset of menarche doesn't actually mean that
all of the bodily organs are FULLY mature, it'd be
more accurate to say that the body is gearing up and
kicking into high speed. It still needs time to adjust
which can actually take several years, into the
mid-twenties, before one's cycle becomes more regular,
and some women find they get lighter cycles as they
mature also. So it's worth considering that their
experiences may change as they get older.
Also, I sincerely hope that no one considering how
much they dislike their monthly cycle, thinks that a
hysterectomy to actually remove the 'offending' organ
is a simple matter -- it isn't, and, there can be
life-long consequences that have nothing to do with
bearing children. (Believe me, this isn't coming from
a woman that thinks that childbearing is god's gift to
women to make them feel whole-- I don't really like
kids very much, never intend to have any of my own, my
own body being impregnated creeps me the hell out.)
Some women have reported a loss of sexual pleasure
after their uterus was removed, in part probably
because the sexual and reproductive systems are quite
complicated and interconnected. Personally, I KNOW
that losing my uterus would be devistating to me,
because I quite enjoy deep penetration at times during
intercourse as well as the heightened intensity of
orgasm that I often achieve while on my monthly flow.
I would be very sad to lose those.
Lastly, just to the commentor that talked about the
sewage problem related to the disposal of so-called
"sanitary products," specifically, "...the tampon
applicators, not to mention pads and wrappers that get
flushed. These products break our equipment, clog
pumps and dull the teeth of the grinders." That's a
totally legitimate-- and also inexcusable, problem,
that isn't caused so much by menstruation as it is by
women flushing things that were never intended to be
flushed! Most applicators shouldn't be flushed, unless
they're cardboard (in which case the lady or gentleman
commentor would know more than I as to whether even
the cardboard ones cause problems), and certainly not
pads or wrappers. That's just... ridiculous. Read the
Oh and, for the record, I'm 26 years old and from the
US. (And I'm a Gender & Sexuality Studies major at
University, if that lends any credence to my claims on
scientific facts, since I don't have the names of the
studies on hand to quote from directly.)
Yes. "I'd be over the moon!"
Absolutely I would!! I have two children and only
ever wanted two. All my period does is make a huge
mess and prevent me from making love or going
swimming. It lasts for at least 8 days and has
precisely no good function.
What a waste of good iron! If I could stop having
them from now until I die I'd be over the moon!
****, Surrey, England
From the Czech Republic: Yes. "I'm 18 and really
have had enough."
Yes, I would absolutely like to stop menstruating
forever. I started my period when I was just 10 years
old, at the moment I'm 18 and really have had enough.
I can imagine a life without: fear that I get my
period unexpectedly, ladies sanitary aids and not
forgetting to change them, loads of painkillers,
general physical discomfort resulting from it (like
bloating or digestive problems) etc. And infertility
wouldn't be an issue to me - I also never want to have
kids; if I wanted, I would adopt, because all the
pregnancy and giving birth frightens me too much.
That is just my point of view.
A girl from the Czech Republic.
"No, I am proud of my period."
Hi Harry - I love the MUM website, it's got so much
information about the history of menstruation - thank
you for keeping it going!
I want to add my voice to the long ongoing debate of
"would you stop menstruating if you could?":
No, I am proud of my period. It's been a part of my
life for 13 years, and I wouldn't want to part with it
now. It's helped to shape my self-esteem, my identity,
and who I am. Menstruation is a mixed blessing for me,
I can't change it so I like to focus on the good
things about it. I don't like the pain but it is
manageable now at the age of 23 (I used to get very
bad pain sometimes as a teenager). The pain has made
me a stronger person. Menstruation makes me feel more
connected to other women & prouder of being a
woman. Menstruation has brought me closer to my
mother, and makes me feel more connected to her &
my sister. I also like the blood, I find it
fascinating (to me, blood and the colour red symbolize
women). The blood tells me about my body, and
menstruation makes me feel more connected to my body.
I see my period is a welcome excuse for me to take
time out, watch television during the day and nurture
Thank you ;)
****** (Auckland, New Zealand).
No, I don¥t want to miss my period. It makes me feel
healthy and powerfull.
**********, 38, Berlin, Germany
So you ask, "Would you stop menstruating indefinitely
- for years, maybe?"
My answer would be a resounding "Hell Yes!" I have
never in all of my 31 years been able to justify why I
personally should be subjected to such a monthly
ordeal. I have known since I was 13 that I would NEVER
breed or bring another life into this world and have
taken such measures to accomplishing that. I've been
looking into the option of getting a hysterectomy
since I was about 27 and naturally I was told that
surely I wouldn't want such a procedure because what
if I wanted kids in the future.
I think this is the most ridiculous argument. Do they
discourage people who need amputations with similar
arguments? Surely those people would like to continue
walking in the future. Frankly, I think by denying
young women the option to stop menstruation by
surgical means is nothing short of typical
misogynistic medical oppression. It is a complete
disregard of what a woman wants for her own body.
And as for those delusional women who think that
bleeding every month defines them as a woman, take
note: you are so much more than your genitals.
*"Killing for peace is like fucking for virginity."*
thanks for a very informative guide. I always enjoy
my periods, and always look forward to it coming. As
you said, I feel so girlish and feminin.my boyfriend
loves me more during these times. [Actually I didn't
say that but many contributers to this page have said
No. "It makes me feel so feminine and girly."
No, I would not. Yes I've always had a heavy flow in
which I would bleed through SUPER tampon in about 15
mins. Even my first period was very heavy...etc but no
I would not stop menstruating if I could. I say this
because for whatever reason, my period is kind of like
my own sweet little secret. It makes me feel so
feminine and girly. It's special and intimate and
nobody knows except for me.
"Right now I'd say HELL YEAH NO MORE PERIODS,
because I'm menstruating at the moment and it sucks.
. . . I still wish I was a guy sometimes."
I like reading all the different answers to this
question. I suppose I'm in the middle as to how much
this monthly business affects me physically and
emotionally. Right now I'd say HELL YEAH NO MORE
PERIODS, because I'm menstruating at the moment and it
sucks. I began when I was 11, and had some pretty
painful periods right from the start. Throughout high
school they weren't so bad, because I was very
physically active: I had to walk everywhere and was
forced to go to gym class five days a week. Now that
is more of a challenge for me because I work at home
and I could sit in a chair all day if I wanted to.
Over the last four or five years I was moving to
different houses and changing jobs like dirty laundry,
and my periods became more and more painful, to the
point where I'd be writhing around on the bathroom
floor at 3 am, screaming for my mom. When I met my
boyfriend, who I'm living with now, my cycle became
perfectly regular for the first time in my
life. It's still painful, but for much less time than
before. I guess if I've learned anything from all of
this it's how complicated your body is, and how much
it's affected by your environment, your daily routine,
the people around you, illness, even the weather
Two months ago I stopped drinking coffee and alcohol
and decided to make a lot of changes in my diet, so
hopefully that will help even more. These experiments
are kind of interesting, to see how quickly or
gradually I respond to a change, but I never wanted to
think about my period so much. I still wish I was a
---Age 27, USA
"I managed to find a Dr. who finally rid me of my
uterus & one ovary at my age of 32.....he said I
had blood clots 'from nipples to knees'! I praise
God every day for that man!"
I started my period a few months shy of my 13th
birthday. Every single month, I would be felled by
cramps, nausea, hot & cold flashes, and constant
diarrhea. At 15, my Dr. wanted to put me on birth
control pills- this was the early 1960s!
I married in 1965 & was on the pill for 4 yrs.
until we started our family.....stopped nursing at 6
weeks so I could get back on The Pill...($2.50/month
at the time!) Anyway....we had another child 30 months
later; my husband had a vasectomy, so I was back to my
'normal cycle'. Same old symptoms.....only worse!
I had to Dr.-shop to find someone who would perform a
hysterectomy....I would bleed thru two tampons, two
pads, and a beach towel between my legs on the first
two days of my period, post-childbirth. I managed to
find a Dr. who finally rid me of my uterus & one
ovary at my age of 32.....he said I had blood clots
'from nipples to knees'! I praise God every day for
Anyway.....about 50, with one active ovary, I went on
Premarin for hot flashes & insomnia....did that
for about 10 yrs., then gave it up. I am now
symptom-free, travel light (no pads, tampons, or
anything else!), and am very happy grandmother of 4
lovely grandbabies! My sympathies with those who've
experienced what I have....and I have total respect
for those who are not going thru what I have.
All the best-
Yes. "I have the best of both worlds - I still get
the energy and sexiness that comes with a woman's
natural hormonal cycle, but with none of the
swelling and pain and shedding that is due to the
build up and release of the lining."
Heck yes I would stop and I finally found a way that
Since getting a Mirena IUD for birth control, I have
stopped menstruating at the age of 38, and I am
thrilled. I used to have awful cramps, vomiting,
diarrhea, and mood swings. Now I feel good all the
time - no pain, no depression, no weird distractions
of cramps and clots. It is wonderful, and with none of
the emotional side effects of the Pill which were very
The Mirena doesn't interfere with my natural cycle,
or pump hormones all through my body, it just releases
a tiny amount of hormone right into the uturus, and
this thins the lining so it is almost gone. So I have
the best of both worlds - I still get the energy and
sexiness that comes with a woman's natural hormonal
cycle, but with none of the swelling and pain and
shedding that is due to the build up and release of
the lining. I feel so powerful and LUCKY that I
discovered this early enough to enjoy it! I recommend
it to anyone. On the commercials they say that only
women who have had a child should consider it, but I
have never been pregnant at all and it fit just fine.
Yes. "I will not be using my uterus again and see
no reason to keep it."
Yes, at this point most definitely. I am 37 and a
mother of 4. I started at 11.
Through out most of my life, it hasn't really been an
issue. Just a normal biological function that happened
on a monthly basis. After an emergency c-section with
child # 4, my periods have become painful &
heavier. Also, in the past couple of years I've begun
experiencing severe depression lasting around 10 days
that coincides with it. So - if given the option I
would love to have a hysterectomy and simply get it
over with. I will not be using my uterus again and see
no reason to keep it. Not that uterus removal would be
likely to take care of the hormone issues that are
causing the depression, but hell, at least life would
be less messy. Just to be clear though, it's not about
shame. I don't despise being female or having a
vagina. I'm not angry about it. It's served it
purpose, acquired some damage the last time around and
should be properly put to rest.
"Never Ever Ever!"
In answer to that question: Never Ever Ever!
I get one or two days during my period that
completely disable me, but I still love it. People
think I'm crazy, but women in industrialized countries
are taught to hate our periods, to hide them, to feel
ashamed, which is why people respond so negatively to
anyone who respects menstruation. Sexism is part of
the motivation for the negative views, as in, "men
don't have this 'nasty' 'horrible' 'smelly problem'
every month".think about it! What's so shameful about
a body indicating fertility? There are so many
products that are aimed at hiding menstruation-but
this is unnecessary-a tool for feminine hygiene
companies to make more money. Try reusable cloth pads
or cups or sponges-these aren't bad for you or the
environment. I get it-it's really really hard to see
where I'm coming from if you answered "no" to the
question, and for you sisters who have periods that
are so painful they merit medical attention, I
understand your situation is different. For everybody
else, all you have to do is try, try thinking positive
after all the pain about what it all means-it will
change your entire outlook!
I'm ****, I'm 20 and I'm from Wisconsin, and I love
I haven't had menstrual problems like very, very
strong pains or fainting, but it hasn't been easy for
me too. But, although I don't love the fact that I
have the bleeding, it doesn't only remind me of the
fact that I'm a female (and that's a fact that I DO
like), but it's also very natural. If God has created
us like this, why should we try to stop it? I know how
it is to feel sick or how it is when you've been
caught having menstruations at SCHOOL. But I still
wouldn't give this up. I must sound crazy, but I've
learned to live in peace with my body (and I
understand that that's not actually a very easy goal
when you're in great pain). The fact that you have
menstruations can mean (most of the cases, anyway)
that you're only healthy and everythings alright with
So, my answer, in one word - NO.
And thank you for this website.
"I already have. . . . I think I would rather die
a thousand agonizing deaths than to have to have
those periods again."
Your site is so interesting! Here's a story for your
"Would you stop menstruation if you could?" page. :)
Sorry if it's too long. Feel free to summarize or take
out excerpts if you still want it.
I already have.
I started my period when I was 12 and, from the
beginning, I had very heavy periods. They were so bad
that I refused to go to school on my heaviest days; I
would stay home in bed and cry. After I got a little
older, my mom got me an appointment with a
gynecologist to see if I could get some help. The
first visit he just prescribed me some Naproxen for
cramps. I went back later and tried to more fully
explain what the deal was: it was the cramps, it was
the bleeding. So this time, he put me on Seasonique
The idea of only having a period every three months
made so happy I almost cried. I was delighted.
Unfortunately, after being on Seasonique for a while,
I started having very heavy breakthrough. I was afraid
it would be something I would have to deal with
forever. It interfered with my life so much that I
became depressed for a while and was prescribed
Prozac. I remember coming home from school one day,
having dealt with the heavy bleeding all day, and
sitting in the bathroom and just screaming my head
off. At that point I was beyond crying.
It had gotten to the point where it was like I was
having a period, every day. After a few weeks of that
I went back to the doctor and he put me on a different
birth control, and told me to skip the placebos and
take the active pills continually to supress my
period. I liked that idea, but after a while it
stopped working, and so the doctor schedule a
laparoscopy to see what was wrong with me.
I was terrified at first, but the experience wasn't
too unpleasant. The doctor did the laparoscopy as well
as a DNC, and he burned off the excess endometrial
tissue he found. He also removed a few small polyps.
My appendix had endometriosis on it, so he just
removed the whole thing.
I woke up from the surgery feeling pretty good. I had
almost no pain post-surgery. The worst part was, when
I went to the bathroom at the hospital, finding out
the doctor had put a tampon in me. Having never worn
tampons I didn't realize what the cord hanging out of
me was until the nurse looked at it. I nearly had a
panic attack; I think I thought my intestines were
falling out or something. I've always hated tampons.
Anyway, after the surgery I did very well for a
while. My doctor never fully explained that I had a
condition called endometriosis. He just told me that
he burned off the tissue; I didn't know it was a
disease. My mom explained to me what it was.
Eventually the heavy breakthrough came back, and I got
put on a different birth control, and another. I had
to try a few before I found one that worked for me.
Now I'm on Ovcon 50. It's a very high dosage, very
few pharmacies carry it, and there's no generic for
the 50mg dosage, so it's very expensive. However, it
works, and that makes me extremely happy. I skip the
placebos, so I no longer have a period. My friends
tell me how I lucky I am that I don't have to have a
period. I don't think they fully understand what I
went through, but I know that I am lucky for
endometriosis to be the only health problem I have. It
could have been a lot worse.
At the time I wished I could have just had a
hysterectomy, but I was too young and it was too
extreme a solution for my problem. Right now I'm glad
to just have birth control and no more period. I think
I would rather die a thousand agonizing deaths than to
have to have those periods again.
"I believe the close affinity with the moon it is
not a mere coincidence."
No, I would not stop menstruation artificially. To
me, menstruation means an opportunity to remember
periodically that I am a fertile woman and that my
body is available and gives me the opportunity to
receive a new life.
The inconveniences of menstruation (discomfort,
unpleasant feelings, uterus pain) are an invitation to
slow my pace of activity and work, to pay attention to
the changes in my body, to take some extra time for
myself. Bleeding periodically can be a natural gentle
regeneration at biological and energetic level. I
think menstruation is also surrounded by magic. I
believe the close affinity with the moon it is not a
mere coincidence. I usually have my period in crescent
moon and I found out that I was born and that my
children were born or conceived with a crescent moon.
The physiology of ovulation is part of the mystery.
Girls are born with hundreds of thousands of ovules.
Many of them will disappear, about four hundred will
wake up 15, 30, even 50 years later to produce
ovulation and just a few of them will generate a new
life. It is also amazing that the signal to ovulate
comes from the hypothalamus, which is also the central
unit of emotions. When a woman has anomalous periods,
she may have emotional or psychological aspects which
In addition, for some cultures, like the indigenous
people from Australia, menstrual blood is used in
My name is ***, I am 40, and I am from Spain.
She later added:
There is a recent documentary dealing with
menstruation that probably you already know: "The moon inside you," from
Diana Favianova. It can be viewed on line here.
"The blood loss is so great that I have to have
blood transfusions continuously. So, HELL YEAH. I
would stop it without a doubt."
I am 16 years old and begun my periods on my 12th
birthday. The most painful day in my life without a
doubt. I have the worst period pains known to mankind
(well maybe not the MAN-kind) as well as the fact that
I have anaemia and faint at least 4 times in the 5
days that I have my period. The blood loss is so great
that I have to have blood transfusions continuously.
So, HELL YEAH. I would stop it without a doubt. No
second thoughts, nothing. I don't care about the fact
that I can't have children, although I am young to be
saying this, I already have knows for years that I
would rather adopt in the future.
"No" from Chile
Would you stop menstruating if you could? (¿Dejarías
de menstruar si pudieras? No, aunque muchas mujeres
piensen lo contrario. Me agrada el misterio que hay en
la menstruación, porque es la esencia de la
femeneidad, representa totalmente el hecho de ser
mujer, porque no le ocurre de ninguna manera al
Además es una indicadora del funcionamiento de mi
cuerpo. Tengo resistencia a la insulina, una
enfermedad crónica similar a la diabetes tipo 2 aunque
menos grave, y uno de sus síntomas es precisamente
tener ciclos irregulares.
Mis ciclos nunca han sido regulares. Esperé los dos
años después de mi primera menstruación (que fue a los
12 años y 7 meses), sin embargo seguía tan irregular
como en los primeros ciclos. A los 17 años fui por
primera vez a un ginecólogo debido a mi irregularidad.
Mis ovarios no poseen quistes, según reveló la
ecografía. Lo que me hace irregular es el alto nivel
de azúcar en la sangre que tenía antes de comenzar mi
Felizmente ahora me he vuelto más regular. Es un
proceso lento. Antes mis ciclos variaban en su
duración de 25 a 48 días; ahora duran entre 31 y 38,
lo cual es un gran avance, en los tres años que llevo
como insulinoresistente diagnosticada.
Sí, tengo algunas molestias cuando menstrúo, pero se
solucionan con paracetamol para mujeres. Nada grave.
Sólo es desagradable la sensación de estar manchada,
aunque nunca he visto la temida mancha roja en mi
ropa. Por cierto, gracias al sitio Mum.org que me
atreví a probar los tampones.
Son cómodos y bastante seguros, aunque al principio
es difícil acostumbrarse, ya que al ser virgen como yo
el tamaño de la vagina es diferente.
Una vez mi mamá los probó y según ella fue un
desastre, se manchó entera y nunca más quiso usarlos.
Incluso guardó un tampón (era Tampax), sin embargo,
lamentablemente lo botó a la basura hace algunos años.
Si hubiera sabido de la existencia de este sitio lo
habría conservado y enviado.
Aquí en Chile no todas las mujeres usan tampones. Le
expliqué de esto a una amiga, y me dijo que ella jamás
los usaría. Creo que es por la gran cantidad de
católicos que hay aquí (yo no soy católica), y son
bastantes conservadores en este aspecto. La
menstruación generalmente es un tema tabú, al igual
que el sexo.
Muchas gracias por el espacio de expresión,
*****, 20 años, Chile
"I'd surprisingly have to say no!"
I'd surprisingly have to say no! I've only had my
period for about two and a half years, I'm currently
15 and I got it at 12. I used to HATE it SO much, but
now I feel better once I get it if you know what I
mean. Like, before my period I feel all bloaty and
gross when I'm pmsing, but it feels great to finally
be done with that. I think the main reason's because I
used to get very heavy periods when I was 12 and 13,
and some of the time when I was 14, but now their not
so bad, if anything on the lighter side.
Plus, my cramps have also gotten much better since my
first. Womanhood's not so horrible after all!
P.S. I love your website Harry, keep it up! I
actually found it when I was looking for first period
stories, since I love reading them.
"I know is a contradiction, but I am a
contradiction, and that's why I can not make up my
mind regarding this."
By one hand it would be a relief as my period is not
allowing me to keep going with the normal course of my
life. By the other hand I think there is a kind of
sacred thing in our blood. It is also well-known that
we, women, get a really good cleanse while we have our
periods and that I feel well when the period is over.
So, if I don't have my period anymore how I am going
to enjoy that moment of being free of pain? I know is
a contradiction, but I am a contradiction, and that's
why I can not make up my mind regarding this.
****, 35, Belgium
"Maybe, if I took the right attitude about it, my
periods would put me in touch more with my feminine
side, but I'm one of those girls who really should
have been born a guy."
I'm 17 and have very irregular periods, sometimes
bleeding for a month straight, but sometimes going for
three or four months without a drop of blood showing.
The unpredictability makes my life, uh, interesting,
but at least the flow is light and I don't have severe
cramps or noticeable mood swings. So, while periods
are an inconvenience, they're nothing I can't put up
Maybe, if I took the right attitude about it, my
periods would put me in touch more with my feminine
side, but I'm one of those girls who really should
have been born a guy. Not to say I'm lesbian or
anything, just missed out on the Y chromosome.
"I have a few family members and friends that have
had hysterectomies and oh how I envy them so."
Do we even need to ask this question????Ý I would
stop it in a minute, given that there are no ill
effects as has been stated by others.Ý I have fibroid
tumors and the extreme pain and excessive bleeding
wreak havoc for me.Ý I usually plan my life around
I started menstruatingÝ at age 13 and it was the
worst experience ever.Ý I remember thinking after the
first two times it occurred, "Whew, I survived and I'm
glad it's over", then my mother reminded me that this
event will happen every 28 days for the next 30-40
years of my life.Ý I was devastated!Ý It took me over
a year to get used to the changes, but it's still not
my friend!Ý I have a few family members and friends
that have had hysterectomies and oh how I envy them
37 years old
"hmm... not sure I'd stop it all together"
I know periods are definitely a pain, but I'm not
sure I'd stop them all together. I'd have to question
what effect it would have on my overall biological
functioning. If there were no negative side effects
associated with it, I think I might consider it, but
still, not sure I'd do it.
I'm almost 23 years old, and have been having periods
since age 12. On the one hand, periods are painful.
When I was on birth control (which I started using at
19 years old), it wasn't so bad, but now that I'm not
on birth control anymore they're so much more painful.
My whole lower back hurts pretty bad, and I'll
randomly get dizzy or hot. I don't want kids
(literally, ever), so do I really have a need for a
monthly period? On the other hand though, I do like
the monthly assurance that I'm not pregnant. I know I
could easily get a pregnancy test, but having a period
is free. I'm a student, money is tight sometimes.
I don't think having a period is beautiful and it
definitely doesn't make me feel more connected to
other women or nature, but I don't hate my uterus
either (or my periods, for me they're just not that
serious). I wouldn't say having a period is symbolic
of womanhood as post-menopausal women are still women.
I'm on the fence about what I'd do in this situation.
My biggest concern is what effect removing a process
from my body all together. I'd wonder what effect it
would have on my immune system (which works in sync
with the menstrual cycle) and other processes in my
body. If it was safe to do, I just don't know if I'd
actually do it.
~ Undecided student
"YES i want to stop my period!!!
"I'm 18 years old and i started my period at the age
of 10. i was diagnosed with endometriosis at 17 and
was told that i need a hysterectomy. after years of
suffering and STILL suffering im ready for it to stop.
i hate being on hormones it only does my body more
harm than good. i have horrible cramps,heavy
bleeding,lower back pain and swelling, painful
urination and diarrhea. my endo is and will only get
worse with every period and bleeding i have. im in
college and i want to have fun. i cant have fun when
im literally being frozen(cant move one inch without
being in pain) while on my period. absoubly no pain
killers,birth control pills,iud,shots,etc work. im fed
up with periods. why cant men have them? lol
"Messy and inconvenient, but not so much as to
take measures such as medications or devices that
may topple my decent hormonal balance."
My last child almost killed me (through the birth
process), and I had a necessary tubal ligation in my
mid 30s to prevent further pregnancies. At 43 years
old, my periods have always been irregular, so it is
always a surprise when Aunt Fannie comes to visit
again, usually after 25-45 days.
Messy and inconvenient, but not so much as to take
measures such as medications or devices that may
topple my decent hormonal balance.
And I suppose when the big M begins, it will be the
stigma of becoming an old lady. So, I will put up with
a bit of mess, and be thankful I have modern hygiene
products and facilities at hand.
"You can not do all the good the world needs, but the
world needs all the good you can do." -Anon.
-- registered nurse from Oregon, U.S.A.
"I guess if there were no side effects and it
wasn't from something hormonal, cause that can
fuck your body up if you're unlucky, I would
choose *not* to bleed every month."
Very interesting comments here!
Not too sure where to start. I guess every woman's
interaction and reflection of her period and all that
goes with it is a very personal account based on her
individual situation, heaviness, methods of handling
the blood that drips/flows/pours out of her vagina as
often as it does.
So for me, I don't have painful periods, not too
long, usually fairly regular and I have always plugged
them up (with non-applicator tampons), I really hate
pads for the dripping/leaking and plastic-y/nappy
wearing feeling - and have just used a diva cup that
my sister gave me a while back, but I put off using.
It was ok as I was able to forget about it for longer
(it holds more than a tampon), and I didn't need to
remember to carry more tampons (as I often get my
period first thing in the morning, while still half
asleep and I forget about it until later when it's
time to change it...) but - it isn't as easy to use -
I'm really worried I'll drop it in the toilet or drop
blood all over the floor getting it out!
Interesting to see how much blood comes out, I've
thought about next time collecting it into a cup
hahThe consistency of the fluid is interesting.
I don't really care about the mess any more. I have
had a lot of really healthy relationships - mostly
with women, but also with men that don't mind the
Specially when dating lesbians, if you want to have
sex and you're cycles aren't synced you're going to
end up painting the town red more than once. Can be
quite fun if you're arty! (and comfortable!)
I guess if there were no side effects and it wasn't
from something hormonal, cause that can fuck your body
up if you're unlucky, I would choose *not* to bleed
Like the other contributor who made the comment about
if we didn't get periods, and then someone asked you
if you wanted to bleed every month, have some cramps,
have hormonal changes, perhaps headaches, food
cravings and feel generally shitty - we'd probably
turn down the offer, right?!
BUT I do *not* hate my period - it can be a good time
to bond with other vaginas, and all get a bit more TLC
I'm more worried about the "hot flushes" that my mum
and grandma have been talking about more recently.
The retired teacher that wrote about her family
herstory is amazing! Such an asset, I hope that she
has been put in touch with other historians to pick
her collective memories for these stories of 150 plus
years ago! Wow.
***** - from Australia, living in China (late 20s)
"I don't need to bleed once a month (or in my
case, at this point in my life, every two weeks)
to prove or feel like a true woman."
I'm a 44 year old Canadian who has been
peri-menopausal now for nine years. My body has
recently "kicked it up a notch" and, gathering from
what my mother and grandmother have told me, I'm now
going through the last stages and likely will stop
altogether and reach menopause before I hit 50.
All I can say is, thank God for that!
If I could have ended my period long ago I would
have. I don't need to bleed once a month (or in my
case, at this point in my life, every two weeks) to
prove or feel like a true woman. I already know I am.
I have the womanly bits to prove it and there's no
question about it genetically either! (Let's just say
that I have more than my share of womanly gifts in
other areas, because genetics is awesome that way, and
leave it at that.)
I started getting my period when I was exactly twelve
and a half years old. When I got it, and I did before
most of my friends, they were all jealous and I got a
lot of congratulations, which was fine. I was never
"taught" to hate my period or hate this aspect of my
femininity, but I have lived in a private hell when it
came to my monthly cycle right from the get-go. My
mother didn't understand. Her periods were regular,
PMS-free, pain free and did its thing and ended. No
problem. For me about a week or so before my period
would start, I would feel cranky and short tempered,
would get severe lower back aches, headaches and,
while extremely regular (I could tell you what day and
what time of day I would start), it came with 10 days
of cramps so bad I saw stars, migraines, vomiting,
excessive flow and sometimes fainting. I'd miss at
least three days of school each month because of the
pain and sickness, and eventually I would be on
painkillers so strong, I was too stoned to make any
sense of anything. After three days life became more
tolerable, but I still had bad cramps, still was pale
as the walking undead and tired from the whole ordeal.
I have had tests upon tests done on my reproductive
system since my doctors, male and female, were
concerned I had some sort of problem that caused such
a nasty experience and execessive flow, but even
today, all my tests have come up normal. I eventually
had to accept the fact that I'm one of those lucky
women (and I mean that with every ounce of sarcasm I
can muster - and that's a considerable amount, trust
me) who have what I lovingly call "the periods from
And to make it just that much more a stab in the
heart (which I would have much preferred), I found out
in my mid-20's I was unable to carry a child to full
term and often would miscarry just before or around
the first trimester (one manged to make it to nearly
four months - the first one I lost). As I said it
once, "The little guys take, but when they get to the
size of a pea, the little sailors jump ship and that's
an experience I would never wish on anyone!"
I long accepted that I was unable to have children
and didn't feel it necessary or desireable after a
certain point to have any of my own. So, I didn't
consider fertility treatments. Anyway, my problem
wasn't that I couldn't concieve...that I could do
easily enough. My problem was, I was unable to carry a
child to full term...and no one knew why or even how
they could effectively fix the problem without driving
me insane. Or causing me further trauma or pain.
Once I accepted that, I firmly wanted my periods to
stop. Nothing at the time was available to me that I
could use to make them stop (that didn't involve
surgery or removing bits of my anatomy - which no
doctor will do even now when I emphatically tell them
I want it done because the whole aparatus is not ever
going to be used for the purpose it was developed).
Because of other health problems unrelated to
reproduction, most of those methods are still
unavailable to me (or don't work to stop my periods,
just make them a teensy bit lighter - but eventually
these would even stop working).
Then I started peri-menopause. That just made
everything worse. Now I never know when my period is
going to start, how long it will be, or even how heavy
and bad it will be. It's gotten so disgusting to clean
up the nasty messes. I have to wear double or triple
the amount of pads (three pads at the same time have
me now referring to the whole get up as my "lady
diaper") and right now have a cupboard stuffed with
them to get me through the next few months (hopefully)
and always go nuts picking up boxes of pads when they
go on sale (tampons turned out to be unuseable for me
- they actually make my cramps worse and I'd still
have to wear a pad anyway).
So yeah, I'd love to make it stop, right now. No more
expense, no more mess, no more pain, no more mood
swings, no more any of it. The good news is, by the
time I finally stop, most of my friends my age will
just be getting started.
For those women who love getting their period and
think it makes them more feminine, connects them to
other women, reminds them of their fertility (which
was totally ironic for me), etc. well, I'm glad they
can feel that way and pat them on the back for it, but
those of us who hate having our periods and would stop
it in its tracks if we could shouldn't be considered
less of a woman, or be judged has hating our bodies
and hating ourselves or women in general. As other's
have said, this is my body and I should have the right
to deal with this particular function of it as I wish.
Since the chamber is decidedly empty, will never have
anyone move into it, why should I keep it open for
tenancy? Or have reminders that while it may have a
temporary resident, it won't make it to the end of the
lease. For a long time that was more heartbreaking
than the hellish period itself.
Now, my period is just a nasty annoyance. I can't
wait for menopause to hit...and according to just
about every woman I know who has gone through it,
that's worth celebrating more than starting getting a
period it in the first place.
It can't come soon erough!
No. "I see my period as a reminder
of my fertility, which I haven't yet tested by
trying to get pregnant, but I hope it will possible
for me and my husband."
I wanted to contribute because I seem to be one of
the few who would probably not stop my periods if I
could. I want to have children someday and therefore
need to have periods for that purpose, and currently
it is helpful to know every month whether I'm pregnant
or not. However, that's unlikely because I've been on
the pill for about 8-9 years. From what I hear from
friends, not everyone is as lucky with the pill as I
have been - I did not gain weight and my cramps and
bleeding didn't get worse, but reduced significantly.
I am now 27 and interestingly, for the last few years
my period became VERY light and only lasted about a
day and a half. Recently, my period stopped entirely
for about four months. I was a little concerned and
saw a doctor about it, I chose to switch to a very
low-dose pill to see if it would return. I'm hoping it
does. I may have this attitude because my sister went
through a rare premature menopause during her late
teens and I am happy to be reminded that I did not
have to go through such difficulties. I see my period
as a reminder of my fertility, which I haven't yet
tested by trying to get pregnant, but I hope it will
possible for me and my husband. [Women in an English
cotton mill menstruated without any absorbing material
to show eligible men they were fertile - scroll about
halfway down the page to "When studying the
Suffragist movement . . . ." for the interesting
I can understand why some wouldn't want to have
periods, and before I started the pill, I may have
agreed as I had terrible cramps that would keep me out
of school every month. The silver lining of this is
that I found out I could be comfortable talking to my
dad about periods (he often picked me up from school
when I had cramps) and this added to my respect for
Thanks for letting me contribute my opinions and
experiences. Please do not use my name - though I
personally wouldn't mind, I'd like to respect my
family's anonymity since I mentioned them. You were
interested in nationality and region, I am in the
U.S.A. and grew up in central Illinois.
I started my period when between the ages of 11 and
13. My perioiods are sometimes so bad that i cant even
go to school. I get very dizzy and even faint. i fell
asleep in the shower once because of it. Almost every
single period i get i throw up and my cramps are
sometimes so bad that i would compare it to having
contractions during childbirth. I am 18 years old now
and i still get horrible cramps. My thighs hurt, my
lower back hurts, itfeels like my insides are be wrung
out. It feels like i have to go poo reeaallly bad but
i cant and i know its not that because i can pass gas
normalyy and the pain is still presisitant. More than
once while at school i have passes out in class due to
my period. Ive thrown up at school many a times thinks
to Aunt Flow. The past year or so my periods are only
about 4 days long. they used to be about 7. the thing
about histerectamys and birth conrtol is that i hear
they are bad for your body and your hormones.
"Good Lord, Yes!"
At the age of 50, after 41 years of menstruating -
492 periods, to be exact, I had the bright idea to ask
my doctor, "Do I really have to do this?"
He said no, put me on YAZ, and I lived happily ever
The bloating, the IBS symptoms, the weird food
cravings, the weight gain, the inability to fir into
my clothes, the muscle ache, the migraine headaches
(complete with hallucinations and vomiting), the
sudden flashbacks to every unpleasant experience I
ever had with anyone over anything - gone. All gone.
Best of all, the filth is gone. As Tennessee Williams
said, "Nothing human is foreign to me," and it is
especially true for those of us who have taken care of
infants, and the elderly. But one day the whole
business seemed so repulsive to me. Why was it
necessary? Why did I have to put up with this every
month? What was the point? I'd hated every period I'd
ever had, and enough was enough.
The best thing was this: Traveling without a
menstrual period. When I menstruated, no matter what
the reason, business or pleasure, I always ended up on
an airplane or an isolated stretch of Southwest
highway, damn near bleeding to death.
Everyone I suggest YAZ to says, "Oh, no, I can't use
a contraceptive because..." It reminds me of when I
was younger, and women said that they couldn't use a
contraceptive "because." They were always
"discovering" they were pregnant - as though it were
completely out of their control.
I say, have or have not the babies you want, and have
or have not your periods. Take control.
No. "It's the only way I can be excused for
Why would I want to stop my menstruation? It's the
only way I can be excused for being cranky. I feel
close to the nature, the idea of the cycle and the
whole concept behind it makes me feel special. I am
proud to be a woman and menstruation is part of my
Yes. I'm 17 and would do anything to stop periods.
It's the one thing that has ever made me want to
"I cant think of anything more putrid than having
to wash the huge amount of menstrual blood I produce
away by hand."
Im nearly 38 and I say.. yes..
I had 11 yrs of infertility. Month after Month of
humiliation, disappointment and mess. I had months of
pain, months of having to throw my knickers out every
day.. Finally after having a 20cm tumor, ovary and
tube removed and 9 months of fertility treatment I
fell pregnant and those 9 months were awesome period
I then Bled none stop for 14wks just to teach me a
lesson Im sure.. 14mths later got pregnant again and
had a second child and ever since my periods have been
so heavy and horrendous that even Maxi absorbing
incontinence pads leak! Not to mention mid cycle
debilitating pain (Mittelschmerz doesnt describe
enough the pain)
I have had my kids.. why keep the factory open if
its not going to produce anything. If I could have an
hysterectomy I would.. I only have one functioning
ovary and it would be kept to help my hormones
regulated.. but why bleed?
As for moon cups and washables.. NO THANKS.. I cant
think of anything more putrid than having to wash the
huge amount of menstrual blood I produce away by
hand.. YUCK.. some days I wish I could just stand in
the shower all day to save the embarrassment of leaks
and failed protection..
Its no one else's place to comment on my personal
choices for MY Body.. if you love it.. good on ya but
i don't need periods to define my femininity nor to
have babies any more...
"And to those spouting hateful comments about
women who choose suppression - Sorry, but living in
horrific pain is not a requirement for being a
woman. My body is mine, and I'll do what I need to
to live comfortably in it."
Came across this page and thought I'd add a comment.
I don't know that I'd feel 100% comfortable with
completely ending my period, though the idea is very
tempting. But I am currently regulating it, and have
been since I was 16. I'm now 23. It was one of the
best things I've ever done for myself. I use regular
birth control pills to suppress it for four months,
then at the end of that fourth month I let myself have
a withdrawal bleeding. It's uncomfortable, but fairly
light and tolerable. A far cry from how it used to be.
For years my period caused me nothing but pain. It
did not make me feel connected to other women or my
womanhood. It didn't make me feel sexy or feminine. I
didn't hate it because of societal brainwashing. I
hated it because the pain was excrutiating. I hated it
because I was bedridden for a week, because I was in
too much pain to stand and take a shower for days,
because I had to schedule my life around it. I hated
nights trapped in the bathroom, crying and vomiting
from the pain. Every diet and exercise change I made
to my life had little to no impact on it. And my PMS
was insane, causing me enough physical pain that I'd
just wish my period would show up already and get this
over with. Not to mention the emotional turmoil. Even
after taking birth control pills in the traditional
fashion, it made only a small dent in the problem. I
felt trapped and tortured by my own body. I couldn't
understand how this kind of pain was normal. I
couldn't even go to school, so how could I ever hold a
job? How could this supposedly normal female bodily
function be so destructive to my life?
My mother just happened to catch a special on TV
about period suppression, and my life was changed from
that moment. I talked to my doctor, started a routine
and never looked back. My quality of life has
skyrocketed. When I do have the withdrawal bleeding,
it's light enough for me to still function like a
normal human being. And my body seems to have adjusted
itself to the schedule. When that fourth month comes
up, I start feeling kind of sore and a little PMSy,
just a bit, like it's saying "Okay, it's almost time."
My body and I work together now. I feel more connected
to it than I ever did on my "natural" cycle.
And to those spouting hateful comments about women
who choose suppression - Sorry, but living in horrific
pain is not a requirement for being a woman. My body
is mine, and I'll do what I need to to live
comfortably in it.
Yes. "Dr. *** was there in the surgical suite
when I came in with his Jimmy Buffet playing. He
held my hand while they put me under, all the while
telling me what a great person I am, how well I was
going to do and that surgery would be fine. It was
I'm a 46 year old female who had an endometrial
ablation a few years ago. As soon as the discharge
from the procedure stopped, I have been without a
cycle. PRAISE THE LORD! I couldn't be happier! No more
pain, no more bleeding all over the sheets at night
now matter what type of sanitary product I used...
none of it!
My gynecologist was wonderful about performing the
ablation. A friend of mine at work had it done and
raved about it. She mentioned it to me when she saw
how I was suffering greatly from cramps, nausea,
exhaustion and anemia. (When my period came, it was no
secret. All anyone had to do was look at me. My skin
tone changed from a nice medium-to-light tone to stark
white. Even the guys could tell just by looking at
me!) Since I was definitely done having children, when
I approached Dr. *** about it he listened carefully,
gave me an extensive list of pros and cons and said
"Think about it." I went home, told my husband about
it he said "What are you waiting for? Call him back!"
I guess he really had noticed all the suffering I
The surgery was done at the outpatient clinic at our
local medical center. Prep involved not having any
food or liquids after midnight. That was it. Dr. ***
was there in the surgical suite when I came in with
his Jimmy Buffet playing. He held my hand while they
put me under, all the while telling me what a great
person I am, how well I was going to do and that
surgery would be fine. It was truly amazing! I woke up
feeling very groggy, but after I drank some liquids
and the staff was confident I wasn't going to vomit,
they sent me home with my husband to recover. For the
next few days I had some pretty significant cramping
and some bloody discharge, but all I needed to handle
the pain was some mild pain meds Dr. *** prescribed. I
had the procedure on a Friday and had planned to go to
work on Monday, but gave myself an extra day to
recover. Ever since then I've been happy as a clam!
Almost one year to the day my neighbor across the
street had her ablation done by Dr. *** and raves
about him and how she feels now also! (I was the
guinea pig, I guess.) Now, ironically, my
sister-in-law in another state had it done and had a
terrible outcome. Her periods got worse as did her
cramping. She ultimately wound up with a hysterectomy.
If I had known she'd have that outcome, I would have
insisted she come here to have Dr. *** do it!
I do NOT miss my period and feel for my poor 17 year
old daughter. Since the age of 13 she's been suffering
from severe cramping and bleeding AND Dr. *** thinks
she already may have endometriosis. She's on the
Depo-Provera shot for now which has stopped her cycle
all together, but we worry about the future and her
ability to have children.
"[Menstruation] doesn't put me in touch with
the earth or my femininity any more than my snot
or shit does."
I am 38 year old New Zealander with two children.
During pregnancy and breastfeeding I had a marvelous
four years off (apart from one light period between
weaning and falling pregnant again). I can't see the
point of menstruating any longer. It doesn't put me
in touch with the earth or my femininity any more
than my snot or shit does.
I use a cup and washable pads because its cheaper
and doesn't generate rubbish, not because I enjoy
handling bodily fluids - I used cloth nappies for my
sons but I don't have a particular affinity with
baby shit either.
If worshipping the moon makes women accept their
periods more, then more power to them; but I think
menstruation, like painful and life-threatening
childbirth, is an artifact of evolution that we can
moderate, but are unfortunately stuck with.
"I love menstruating."
I am 24 years old. I love menstruating. My cycle
is a beautiful reminder to remember what it means to
be Woman. I feel more empowered than ever now that I
am learning more about my cycle and fertility. I
used to get angry about being in a female body and
thought periods were a pain. Even if it still hurts
a little, now I am giving my cycles attention and
I'm feeling even more in tune with my body, the
Earth, the Moon, and really the essence of being
Human. As a Woman I am grateful for this gift, it is
so healing to give my body Love, and accepting this
into my life is one of the most wonderful things
I've ever done for myself.
"Please try to accept that some people really
do have lighter, shorter, painless menstruation
and some people really do have terrible pain and
I'm kind of surprised by the number of people who
are viciously vocal on this page in either
direction. Personally, I think there are better
options for dealing with menstruation that make it
far less annoying or painful. When I was using an
internal silicon cup I hardly even knew I was having
my period and I only had to clean it in the comfort
of my home twice a day. Lately I've been using
reusable cloth pads, which I find way more
comfortable than commercial ones. I used to have
terrible yeast infections and really bad cramps and
sensitivity. I still have nasty mid-cycle pains from
PCOS that blow menstrual cramps out of the water.
I know that some people have a worse (or better)
time than I do, but our voices are equally valid.
You don't need to hate yourself or others because
your experiences differ. Please try to accept that
some people really do have lighter, shorter,
painless menstruation and some people really do have
terrible pain and heavy bleeding. For goodness sake,
don't ridicule people because they're different.
Everyone has different genes, different reactions to
different products, and different lifestyles.
I do think that people who are suffering might
want to try making changes to their lives to improve
the conditions they're facing, but I don't see any
need to be self-righteous. Nothing works the same
for everyone. I hope people will research and try
other options before chemically or surgically
stopping their menstruation, but it's their right to
chose what they want to do with their bodies.
They're "real" women regardless of their choice and
regardless of their fertility. It's silly to suggest
that someone isn't a woman just because her view of
womanhood differs from yours.
I am saddened by how much people's body image and
their image of their femininity appears to be tied
to negative views of menstruation and their
genitalia. No, you may not have been meant to
menstruate as often as modern women do, but it is
still a natural process and not something you need
to be ashamed of. It doesn't make you filthy or
unclean or disgusting any more than sweating does.
I'm not saying it's loads of joyous fun, I don't
love sweating either, but needing to clean yourself
doesn't mean that there is something wrong with
I was diagnosed with a rare bleeding disorder in
2007, and ever since then I have been burdened with
horrendous periods. Not only is the flow profuse,
but the clots that come out are sickening, and the
abdominal pain that follows is disabling. I would
not wish this monthly curse on my worst enemy.
It's bad enough, I frequently miss work because of
I have recently met with my doctor, and am in the
process of scheduling endometrial ablation to help
with this problem.
So, when you ask me if I would stop menstruation
if I could, my answer is
"I teach anthropology, and we talk a lot about
the difference between sex (which is biological)
and gender (which is cultural). I think it's
perfectly possible to be female in both the sexual
and gender senses WITHOUT the pain and mess of
having a period."
Yes. At present, its sole function is reassuring
me that I am not pregnant. I would happily trade the
cost of buying pads and tampons (and, unfortunately,
I need both) every month for the cost of buying a
pregnancy test once a month. I would love to have
the money back I've spent on diagnostic work for the
sometimes paralyzing pain I have every month (not to
mention the fainting!) only to be told "Well, this
just happens to some women."
I teach anthropology, and we talk a lot about the
difference between sex (which is biological) and
gender (which is cultural). I think it's perfectly
possible to be female in both the sexual and gender
senses WITHOUT the pain and mess of having a period.
On another note, my mother reached menopause at
51. She rates it up there with getting her first job
and marrying my dad as "the best thing that ever
happened to her."
"To sum it all up I'm never stopping my period
I stopped my period for 2 years and let me tell
you, it was the worst thing i could have ever done
to my body. I I was so depressed, crying all the
time, irritable. The effects on my body were awful
as well. I had headaches, My libido was gone, I had
vaginal dryness, heart palpitations, acne and weight
gain all month long. As least when I had my period
all of my discomfort was temporary.
So I finally got fed up and had the Mirena removed
a few months ago and I'm almost back to normal. Sure
my periods are bad but I'm grateful to have it back
after what I went through when it was gone. To sum
it all up I'm never stopping my period again. It
just did not agree with me. I messed with nature and
my body pushed back. I'm never stopping my period
"As a sewage treatment plant operator I know
first hand the consequence of all the female
products that get flushed into the receiving
I have no time for those of you who write in with
your "I hardly notice it" and "eat organic"
comments. If fertility could remain intact there is
no way any sane person would choose to go through
this ordeal once a month. It is a poor set up. End
Let us assume for a moment there was no such thing
as menstruation and the body somehow dissolved the
uterine lining or it would be absorbed by the body.
Then let us say that we were told that once a month
for 3 (give me a break you don't fool me) to 10 days
you will bleed uncontrollably out of your vagina. We
would be mortified. It would seem RIDICULOUS to us!
Having a period is horrible. It is limiting,
expensive, painful, inconvenient and hard on the
environment. As a sewage treatment plant operator I
know first hand the consequence of all the female
products that get flushed into the receiving
streams. Our bar screens are littered with "shoots"
as the boys call the tampon applicators, not to
mention pads and wrappers that get flushed. These
products break our equipment, clog pumps and dull
the teeth of the grinders. Maintenance costs would
be reduced by 36% (yes I figured it out) if these
things were out of environment. As everyone knows,
the products also make their way into the oceans and
waterways, harming aquatic wildlife. I am 37 and
have a uterus full of fibroids and have opted for a
hysterectomy. People say I am crazy that I forfeit
my right to have children. Well, I never thought I
would grow up and be the person who didn't have
kids, but I am certainly not going to define my life
or my womanhood based on wether or not I brought a
kid into this world. There are many ways to express
motherhood and I am not going to go through my life
regretting that I didn't push a child out of my
vagina. It is so ridiculous some of the ideas
society throws at us.
So, I am firing my uterus and never having a
period again. I am an athlete and love to hike and
camp-I can not wait. No more period for the rest of
my life. Oh yeah-diva cups, luna cups and instead
all leak too. Some people have better luck than
others but to say they are fool proof is wrong. And
NO I DO NOT put it in wrong. If after 2 years you
still get leaks then there is something wrong with
the product, not me.
"I know I'm female and I don't need a monthly
messy, painful inconvenience to remind me of the
I've already commented but I feel I had to again
after reading the entry from the woman who claimed
women who wanted to stop their period "sickened" her
and advised them to go get a sex change because they
weren't "real women". If she likes getting her
period then good for her, but she shouldn't be so
harsh on those who don't. I know I'm female and I
don't need a monthly messy, painful inconvenience to
remind me of the fact, I can see that for myself
when ever I get changed or go the bathroom!
"I truly despise my uterus and would be more
than happy to have it removed sooner rather than
later, so that I waste less of my life having to
deal with this inconvenience."
I would happily give up my period at the drop of a
hat if I could find a way to do it that didn't have
other risks for my body. I think it's ludicrious for
me to deal with this mess when I'm not ever going to
have children. I am 23 years old, and I got my
period a few months before I turned 13. I have
fairly easy periods (first day pain only, fairly
light bleeding after the first two days) but all in
all I consider it a waste of time and money,
considering I have no use for it. I truly despise my
uterus and would be more than happy to have it
removed sooner rather than later, so that I waste
less of my life having to deal with this
"yes . . . but only naturally!"
yes i would like stop or lessen my period but only
I usually have 7 days. I am 31 and have been slowly
changing my bad lifestyle habits that have been making
me sick. (food, sleep, stress). I feel better when i
am taking care of myself. I have learned to check
things out before taking advice and not let anyone
tell meÝhow wrong i am, that someone else knows me
I like the natural pad thing and would like to give
that a try.
peace, love, starts from within.Ý
"I would definitely stop my periods if I
And, look at this, turns out I actually can!
I'm 21 years old now and live in Belgium, I started
menstruating when I was around 13. To be honest I've
never had really bad periods, but I did suffer quite a
bit from PMS. The week before my period started
(usually very regularly by the way, 28 days exactly
unless I was stressed) I had a lot of trouble with my
lower back and especially my breasts! God, my breasts.
Constantly felt like they were going to explode, not
very useful in a country where virtually everything is
done by bike... Sex was actually really difficult
because every time my breasts 'got in the way' I
almost had to cry because they were so tender.
Ok, these things weren't that much fun, but nothing
I've used the pill for years but was always rubbish
at taking it at the right times, besides that I forgot
it every now and then. After that I switched to a
vaginal ring, which worked quite well but got a bit
troublesome after a while. Neither really affected my
periods, with or without it, they always came at the
Last year however, I started using Implanon as a
contraceptive. One of the side affects is a change in
your menstrual cycle, but in around 20% of women their
periods stop completely. I'm so happy I'm included in
that 20%. I cannot believe how much EASIER my life is
now! To be honest the first few months were really
strange, I still had PMS symptoms but never started
menstruating. I really felt like 'less of a woman',
like I was handicapped in some way. But after a while
I got used to it, and I dread the day that I'll have
to deal with them monthly again... No more waking up
in blood-soaked sheets, no more having to wear mostly
black skirts in case you 'leak' when you're away, no
more running to the bathroom every hour to check if
everything is still ok down there, no more spending
money on tampons and pads each month. And then I
haven't even talked about the occasional smell, the
constant paranoia that you're leaking or that everyone
can somehow see it on you, having to cancel fun plans
like an impromptu trip, camping, swimming etc. because
'it's that time of the month again'. What is there to
miss? Of course, it's there for a reason, and giving
birth is no doubt a wonderful thing, but why keep it
if it's not necessary? If we can control it? Of
course, I got lucky, but if the possibility existed
for everyone, I really can't fathom why somebody would
look forward to that grueling experience every month.
After my three-year Implanon cycle is over I'm
definitely getting a new one, besides the fact that
it's super safe as you can't make any mistakes using
it, the side effect of ending my periods has honestly
"Would you stop menstruating if you could? Yes,
I absolutely ABHOR this feeling of 'incontinence.'
Not to mention the monthly pain and the costs.
from Germany, 49 years old
Yes. "I started at the age of 8."
I'm 36 years old and want to stop my menstruation. I
don't know why I need it. Women younger then me can by
taking shots or pills and they haven't had it as long
as I have. I started at the age of 8. I've had my two
children and they are about to move out. I had my
tubes cut and burned over 16 years ago. I'm tired of
bleeding for 14-21 days every month and passing blood
clots going threw a pad and tampon every 20 to 30
minutes. So if I can find away to quit having my
period I would.
Yes. "Men don't have to have some horrible,
painful routine in order to feel like men."
I'd like to add my comments to your survey. I
would definitely stop menstruation if I could. In
fact, I found your website when I was doing a search
on what options there are to do that.
I began the horrible thing when I was barely 11
years old, after starting to mature when I was
barely 9. I feel as though I've missed out on my
childhood because of having had a woman's body at
such an absurdly young age. When I was a child, I
used to pray to God every night to make it go away.
When I was around the other kids at school, I always
felt very awkward and out of place because of my
over-developed body. One of the major reasons why I
decided not to have any children was because I was
afraid that a female child would inherit it. With
the age of puberty getting younger, the child might
have started puberty at an even younger age. I'm 38
In response to some of the other comments, I
noticed that one respondent eats only organic foods.
That's really good, and I also eat organic as much
as I can afford to, as organic food is normally more
expensive. I've also noticed that a healthier diet
reduces the severity of the thing.
Some of the respondents say they wouldn't get rid
of it because it gives them the sense of being
connected to the other women around the world. Why
should suffering be part of being either sex? Men
don't have to have some horrible, painful routine in
order to feel like men. If menstruation is what
makes one a woman, is being a woman really a gift,
as some people say that it is?
Although there are ways of stopping menstruation,
they're often very hard to access. Many doctors
won't perform a hysterectomy on a woman who doesn't
have children under the presumption that the woman
will later change her mind and have a nervous
breakdown because she can no longer get pregnant.
This reasoning strikes me as absurd. On the one
hand, the doctors find the woman too feeble-minded
to make the long-term decision as to whether or not
to have children. At the same time, the doctors
think that this same feeble-minded woman would have
the sanity to raise a child. It's interesting that
doctors don't question a woman's ability to decide
whether to have an abortion, and even teenage girls
are trusted with the ability to decide this,
although there are women who've regretted that
There are also a number of medications which can
delay early puberty by suppressing the hormones
until the child becomes older. Despite the rising
rate of early puberty, few people know about the
existence of this treatment, and it's rarely used.
Even when it is, it's generally only used if the
child starts puberty before the age of seven. Is
seven a reasonable age to start becoming an adult?
If it is, should a seven-year-old get pregnant?
Some people use birth control pills to stop
menstruation, but at the same time, there are risks
with it, such as an increased risk of cancer. Also
it's a prescription medication, and getting the
prescription can be expensive for the many people
who don't have health insurance. Also, health
insurance doesn't cover hysterectomies that are
performed solely to stop menstruation. It would be
good if there was some way of stopping this which
didn't involve a doctor's appointment, such as
herbs, or if the existing medications against it
were available over-the-counter.
You can print my name if you publish this on the
website. [The general policy is I never print names
in this section for many reasons.] I live in
Germany, am originally from England, and lived in
the US for some years. Thanks for letting me have my
"[T]he whole thing's nothing but a nuisance and
an expense, with no redeeming features
I would happily have gone my entire life without
any periods. I started when I was 16 and am now 48,
and if my mother's history is anything to go by I
still have another five or more years to go before
I've never had any kind of problems, pain,
pre-menstrual tension, or anything like that. I
don't have any kind of blood or period phobia. But
the whole thing's nothing but a nuisance and an
expense, with no redeeming features whatsoever. I
have to buy pads (and they don't come cheap), carry
a supply if travelling, dispose of them (not always
easy away from home), and go without a bath for a
week. How much money I've been obliged to spend on
pads over the years I hate to think, and it's
basically cash poured down the drain.
I can't understand anyone enjoying or welcoming
anything about periods. My long-standing fantasy was
always to have a hysterectomy and be rid of them
once and for all.
You can show my name if you like.
(Grew up in USA, now living in UK)
"I thank God that he gave women so many gifts"
I would never stop my menstrual. It sets us apart
from men in a big empowering way. I thank God that
he gave women so many gifts like being able to birth
and hold children and then being able to feed them
with milk when they arrive in the world and
menstrualing helps this all transpire.
(15-year-old from Montclair, New Jersey, who
also contributed Nosebleed
pillow and The
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menstruation and who "wanted [her brothers] to die
thinking I never had a period, which was
Absolutely NOT. I am 23 years old and with a 4
year old son. Every since I had him my periods have
been irregular. At first it was because of the depo
shot after I had him, but I stopped after the second
dose. I switched to the patch, then finally back to
the pill. However, after I left my exhusband I
stopped taking the pill when I was 21. Condoms
became my main choice of birth control, oh and I
barely even have had sex in the last 2 years. My
period comes whenever it pleases. Sometimes I only
get 4 to 6 a year. I get pains in my back that are
so unbarable, I get angry, and I get bloated.
However, I do not mind what comes with it. All
because it might mean I can bare children again one
day. Endometriosis is very common in the women in my
family and one day when I decide to get remarried
and have a stable relationship with the right
person, then maybe I can have one more child.
People who say they would get rid of their periods
sicken me. If you want so bad to get rid of them, go
have a sex change, because you're NOT a real woman
"I HATED it!!!"
Oh yes.... I would have LOVED to have stopped it!
It came when it felt like it... from 27 to 56
days...... I bled heavily for 9 days each time....
flooded through clothing, hot flushes... cramps so
bad I wanted to die.... faintness in the street and
anywhere else. There were times when I could hardly
think straight due to pain and faintness. I HATED
it!!! Then... I had firbroids... and it got worse! I
eventually had a total hysterctomy .. which plunged
me into a slightly early menopause so have to use
hrt patches.. successfully ... but I feel so much
better! Without the 9 day periods, and the two weeks
prior to that swollen to the point of AGONY breasts
that went with it!
"My answer is YES!"
I'm 24 years old from United Kingdom. I got my
first period when I was 11 (I was at school at the
time as well... urgh!). They've never been
particularly heavy but I've always had painful
periods. When I was younger every month on the first
day I'd be so sore that I could barely move and I
would feel feverish so would have to stay off
school, luckily I grew out of that when I was 16,
although I still get bad cramps. I've never had any
desire to have children, so it annoys me when I get
it every month as I'm going through all that
discomfort for nothing. I can't take the pill due to
high blood pressure (I inquired about it a few years
ago for contraceptive purposes) so I can't even stop
it that way. I can't wait until menopause, my mum
went through hers at 47 so hopefully only another 23
years to go!
"It seems like societal brainwashing to me that
women should bleed."
Yes I have chosen to stop by continuously taking
the pill and not the placebo week. I did this before
the new pills came out that allow you to do it. I
can't understand why anyone would choose to suffer
if they don't have to. It seems like societal
brainwashing to me that women should bleed. If you
are on the pill anyway, the bleeding is not a real
menstrual cycle. It is hormone withdrawal bleeding.
The developers of the original pill built the
placebo week into the pill packets so that it would
mimic women's natural cycles and it would be more
easily accepted. It is an illusion so doctors don't
have to explain how it works. Some doctors today
still don't understand how the pill works.
"The short answer to the question 'Would you
stop menstruating if you could?' would have to be
a resounding 'no' for me."
My periods have always been irregular, the first
occurring when I was twelve, the next when I was
fifteen. Even though my first period ruined a ski
trip with my father, and the second my hopes of
joining the wrestling team, I still wouldn't trade
them. My family has a history of a large variety of
horrible problems with their reproductive systems,
and even though I have no desire for children of my
own, it's a comfort to know that I might one day be
able to carry a child.
I'm not even one of those women who has easy
breezy periods: I get migraines, I bleed for at
least a week, I get paranoid and snap at everyone.
Even so, I do feel a connection to women across the
world, and it's one of the rare times that I feel
most like a woman. That in and of itself is amusing,
because I don't always identify as female - not
having periods at all would make it much easier to
be fully androgynous, and yet I still wouldn't trade
"But when I look down and see the strawberry
stain in my panties every month, a little of the
euphoria from the first time still gets me."
At fourteen, I've only experienced 18 periods so far,
but I can honestly say I do appreciate them. It makes
me so happy to think of the connection I have with
virtually every woman in the world. I will admit, they
can be such a pain; and the breakouts, moodiness,
bloating, and cramps associated with menstruation are
very irritating at times. But when I look down and see
the strawberry stain in my panties every month, a
little of the euphoria from the first time still gets
me. I can't help but marvel at my body and the
wonderful things it can do. I view my period as a
beautiful thing, it's a monthly reminder of my
propulsion into womanhood and maturity.
"From the bottom of my heart: I HATE
Since my traumatic first time until now, i have felt
that menstruation is the evilst curse in Earth. I
can't wish anybody the pain, the nasty odor and all
the other "inconvenients" better called punishments
associated with this filthy thing. I wonder why? why?
"I HAVE WONDERFUL PERIODS NOW! No pain, 4 days:
one moderate, 1 light, 2 drainage. My periods
actually make me feel happier."
What do YOU think? Would you stop menstruating
indefinitely - for years, maybe?
Of course not! I love my period & I look forward
to it every month.
I used to have horrible painful periods. I had my
first menses when I was 10 or 11 years old. I hated my
breasts, cramps, and awkward teenage appearance. I ate
terrible fast food and RBGH milk at the time. I know
the chemicals and hormones in food and environment
caused the majority of my problems.
I have since changed my diet to all natural organic.
I only buy milk from cows NOT treated with RBGH and
stopped eating cheap beef and genetically engineered
Let me tell you what.. I HAVE WONDERFUL PERIODS NOW!
No pain, 4 days: one moderate, 1 light, 2 drainage. My
periods actually make me feel happier. I get increased
blood flow to my nether regions (hehe) which at least
put me in a good mood when I'm just sitting there. I
also get excited right before it starts. I also get
"spiritual" around my period. My sense of smell
doubles and I gain an incredible sense for what people
around me are feeling. Trust me, I had 10 years of
period hatin' before I am now proud of everything
Stop buying those horrible dioxin laced disposables!
I bought a bunch of homemade cloth pads from women.
They are thinner, discreet, block odor, store &
wash easily, PLUS they are super comfy. The fleece is
warm in the winter and cotton is breathable in the
summer. The best thing is that there is no smell like
with the disposables because the cloth absorbs it all.
They seem to wick the blood right off. I have leaked
through TONS of disposables, but I have been using
cloth pads for a year WITHOUT ONE LEAK!!! Ebay has a
bunch of these for a great price and you can ask the
sellers to custom make them for you. Most of them fold
up into cute envelope shapes and snap closed- for
transportation (so you can easily stash them in your
purse before & after using without a mess).
Cloth pads are also really easy to clean. Just toss
them in a small hamper after using (don't soak/ don't
prewash). They can sit like this for a few days. The
morning before you do laundry toss them in the washer
with water and oxo-brite (or any oxygen cleaner) and
let them sit. After work (or several hours later)
throw the rest of your clothes in and do laundry as
usual. By this time, the oxygen cleaner will have
eaten away the blood and it will NOT get on your other
clothing. Wash and dry as usual. There is usually a
tiny bit of staining on the pads, but they come out
completely clean and surprisingly bright, ready to use
I went from being a period hater to a period lover!
It is hard to be an all natural woman, but after the
sacrifice my life is so much more fulfilling. The
difference in my mind and body is almost unbelievable
since I stopped eating foods made with pesticides,
toxins, and hormones. My period has also become much
more enjoyable since switching to cloth.
Yes! to the question. "God, the Creator, the
Great Spirit, who for me is revealed in Jesus
Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit, does
not want me to suffer and certainly is not the
cause of my bodily imbalances, any more than God
desires anyone to suffer at all."
After 37 1/2 years of periods since the age of 12,
three children, a tubal ligation and longer periods
after my 3d child at age 35 my answer is "Yes!" I've
had problems with flooding for the last several years
and passing large clots for the last year. Time off
from work, ruined sheets, can't go anywhere for more
than an hour for two-three days unless double padded
with a tampon or two super tampons with one pad,
fatigued and anemic. I am finally doing something
about it-endometrial ablation scheduled three weeks
from now. This is scheduled for 6 weeks before my 50th
birthday. I have completed childbearing, with two
teenagers and one 21 year old adult child and I do not
need this. My God, I know I am a woman for heaven's
sake with or without it. I've been praying and
meditating at home during my periods contemplating my
womanhood long enough to feel at a deep spiritual
level that God is perfectly fine with my decision if I
choose not to suffer with this any longer. Whether or
not I suffer through this any longer is my choice.
God, the Creator, the Great Spirit, who for me is
revealed in Jesus Christ through the power of the Holy
Spirit, does not want me to suffer and certainly is
not the cause of my bodily imbalances, any more than
God desires anyone to suffer at all.
It is natural for a woman's period to end and mine
are certainly clinically abnormal enough to end a few
years early. So, that's my decision for me.
"I wish I could fire it [her uterus]!!!"
Hell yes!!! I am 45 with 4 kids.....had my tubes
tied and have absolutely no use for the monthly mess
I really don't understand how anyone call call it
beautiful....every month I spend six days feeling
bloated, getting blood on my fingers, feeling tied
to the bathroom, can't go quadding in the bush
etc....just because it's a pain, and an interference
in my otherwise great life.
My uterus has served it's purpose....it is now
wasting it's time getting prepared for a baby....I
will never have another....I am done....I wish I
could fire it!!!
Can't wait for menopause.
"Definitely Stop My Period"
The main reason for this is, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH.
I'm a lesbian, and there is no reason for me to
keep having mensuration just to maintain my
As a native Chinese, period/mensuration is
something we would not talk
about openly, and my tragedy is that I had my
first period when I was 8, and ever since, I have
been living with this monthly torture. I
used to be quite active, but ever since my first
period, I can't go to swim whenever I was like my
brother, I can't do anything active in school.
I remember one time, when I was still around 8-9
years old, I was home with my grandma, and I have to
change my mensuration pads, I was to young to
maneuver the thing in my hands that I drop it into
the toilet. And end up having to ask my grandma to
My period bring me so much bad memories.......and
recently, I found out that I'm having disorder
relating to my period. My period just became
heavier, and the cramps became more painful....
I just don't what it anymore, if I can stop it
now, I would definitely stop it with no regret.
I have a message to the girl who added the latest
comment [next page] to
your opinion page.
Honey, you're not alone with this! Just google the
word 'tokophobia' and
(I'm not sure if tokophobia is discussed on MUM
but I think it's an important new aspect of women's
Thanks and all the best,
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